[QUOTE=WhyNott;47879212]If you think so then you're not someone who would have a problem with that to begin with[/QUOTE]
So you don't think girls are people?
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;47885470]So you don't think girls are people?[/QUOTE]
You know exactly what he means
[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;47885596]You know exactly what he means[/QUOTE]
no I don't
I'm not trying to shatter your guys self esteem, I just want to know what guys find so scary about girls. Just talk to them, you don't really have a lot to worry about unless you say some phsyco shit to them
Personally I never feel adequate to people in general, not just girls.
There's a feeling that somethings behind when I'm in the dark. When I enter a room that's dark, I immediately run for the light switch nearby or into another room that's lit. I hate being in the dark.
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;47886298]no I don't
I'm not trying to shatter your guys self esteem, I just want to know what guys find so scary about girls. Just talk to them, you don't really have a lot to worry about unless you say some phsyco shit to them[/QUOTE]
It's a purely physiological reaction, you can't really control it
[QUOTE=WhyNott;47886792]It's a purely physiological reaction, you can't really control it[/QUOTE]
Have you tried at all recently??
I could say the same thing about literally anything i havent tried to do. I cant program anything but its not because of some physiological reason, ive just never tried.
the self-defeating attitude so many people in this thread seem to have is just sad tbh
[editline]6th June 2015[/editline]
if you can't talk to girls that well and just say "oh i can't talk to girls i won't try i'll just get hurt :^(" then congrats you're not going to make any progress at all because you're avoiding literally the only thing that will help you to change yourself
this goes for anything in life as well
I frequently make a post on forums, read it, [I]then[/I] edit it, grammar check it and add things to it, because I'm a mug :v:
[QUOTE=TheWhiteFox1;47889433]the self-defeating attitude so many people in this thread seem to have is just sad tbh
[editline]6th June 2015[/editline]
if you can't talk to girls that well and just say "oh i can't talk to girls i won't try i'll just get hurt :^(" then congrats you're not going to make any progress at all because you're avoiding literally the only thing that will help you to change yourself
this goes for anything in life as well[/QUOTE]
I can talk to girls just fine, only not the ones I have a crush on
hell, I can talk to girls that I have a crush on, just not in the same particular moment that I have a crush
[QUOTE=Dr.Critic;47890904]I frequently make a post on forums, read it, [I]then[/I] edit it, grammar check it and add things to it, because I'm a mug :v:[/QUOTE]
I'm so glad Facepunch has that 15 minute grace period where you can edit your post without counting as an edit. Because I make so many minor revisions after posting.
[editline]6th June 2015[/editline]
[QUOTE=TheWhiteFox1;47889433]the self-defeating attitude so many people in this thread seem to have is just sad tbh[/QUOTE]
"Depressed people should just stop being depressed"
[QUOTE=KillerJaguar;47891199]"Depressed people should just stop being depressed"[/QUOTE]
From what I've experienced that's about 25% of how to not be depressed anymore.
Like if you're too depressed to do something that'd make you happy then you will stay depressed.
[QUOTE=XP_Static;47891314]From what I've experienced that's about 25% of how to not be depressed anymore.
Like if you're too depressed to do something that'd make you happy then you will stay depressed.[/QUOTE]
Fixing my depression came from talking about it to family and friends. (Though, to be fair, doubt internet forum online stuff would've ever helped.)
"Stop being depressed and enjoy life" comments did jack shit.
Depression is rarely about "go do something that will make you happy!!!1!" because depression keeps you [I]from being happy whilst doing those things.[/I]
[QUOTE=Doom14;47891386]Fixing my depression came from talking about it to family and friends. (Though, to be fair, doubt internet forum online stuff would've ever helped.)
"Stop being depressed and enjoy life" comments did jack shit.
Depression is rarely about "go do something that will make you happy!!!1!" because depression keeps you [I]from being happy whilst doing those things.[/I][/QUOTE]
Being told something from outside never does anything if you don't feel it yourself.
The problems with depression is mostly that it keeps you from actively wanting to be happy.
[QUOTE=XP_Static;47755773]The only reasons why I am ever depressed seems to be like I subconsciously [I]want[/I] to be depressed.[/QUOTE]
That's kinda what I'm talking about.
I've somehow managed to become socially inept in MMORPGs. I don't even understand how it happened, but i just end up to shy to try and join a guild. Though honestly, it probably has something to do with the fact that every time I join a damn guild, everyone always thinks i'm a girl, and nothing i do or say ever manages to refute their claims.
Whenever I draw something I put a lot of effort into, I get really discouraged when no one really cares for it and I feel stupid for being proud of it in the first place (which, like happens 99% of the time, the 1% was this short period that I did fnaf fanart and I still feel shitty about the whole situation)
It's been about 2 years and I'm pretty distressed that I haven't gotten a following for my work. I feel more confident and motivated to work when I manage to please or amuse other people.
[QUOTE=TheJunction;47891584]I've somehow managed to become socially inept in MMORPGs. I don't even understand how it happened, but i just end up to shy to try and join a guild. Though honestly, it probably has something to do with the fact that every time I join a damn guild, everyone always thinks i'm a girl, and nothing i do or say ever manages to refute their claims.[/QUOTE]
Same here. I got Guild Wars 2 half a year back but I never went back after the Halloween event. Maybe I should go back and complete my endgame goal before trying out A Realm Reborn. The worst you can do from what I did was start a RP guild about a game no one knows about. (IE Dark Souls before most people knew.)
[QUOTE=TheJunction;47891584]I've somehow managed to become socially inept in MMORPGs. I don't even understand how it happened, but i just end up to shy to try and join a guild. Though honestly, it probably has something to do with the fact that every time I join a damn guild, everyone always thinks i'm a girl, and nothing i do or say ever manages to refute their claims.[/QUOTE]
I used to be in this clan for some ww2 game for a while, and then I just kinda stopped, and quit, and now I never get past "uh yeah I'll totally join" cuz then I just make up reasons and can't get myself to do it.
Also, I don't talk to anyone besides RL friends on steam or anything anymore.
[QUOTE=Arc Nova;47889408]Have you tried at all recently??
I could say the same thing about literally anything i havent tried to do. I cant program anything but its not because of some physiological reason, ive just never tried.[/QUOTE]
You don't have any idea of what it's like to have social anxiety.
I shake a lot, my heart beats way too fast, and I feel an inmobilizing pain in my back whenever I talk to a stranger.
[QUOTE=Cosa8888;47897808]You don't have any idea of what it's like to have social anxiety.
I shake a lot, my heart beats way too fast, and I feel an inmobilizing pain in my back whenever I talk to a stranger.[/QUOTE]
Shit I thought I was the only one
Even ordering food at McDonalds or something has my heart beating and me going over what i'm going to say like it's a fucking audition
I was like that until a year ago too. Then the life situation actually forced me to get the fuck out and confront people. I don't have any problem anymore going in a bank for example and speaking to the dude there about my bank account or buying clothes in a store or whatever.
[editline]7th June 2015[/editline]
People at McDonalds are just that - people - like you and me.
I feel I have zero presence online because of my past habit of changing my username and email every chance I got. I'd disappear, create a new handle somewhere else that I thought sounded cool or succinct, and make completely new friends without telling anyone. Sometimes I'd even act different, as if it were some stupid social experiment and I was seeing what would make me more accepted.
It's been years and I've pretty much forgotten those names and friends. My experiences in online games and message boards are nearly all events with no faces to identify them, and those I do remember are far gone at this point or so distant that I feel weird for having commited any sort of attachment to those things.
Take Facepunch for example, I've never spoken to anyone here or played Garry's Mod/Rust/Half Life 2 in my life, yet I've somehow been lurking for years and can recognize nearly all the forum regulars, but it's only been recently that I started posting. It's just... why? I don't even fucking remember how I found this place.
I wish I broke this habit sooner, because online games and the internet in general are vastly more empty without trusted others to experience it with. Sorry if this is jumbled or doesn't make any sense, I might just need to get out more.
I believe there is no selfless good deed because everybody gets satisfaction out of helping someone or proving a point.
[QUOTE=greeley;47904173]I believe there is no selfless good deed because everybody gets satisfaction out of helping someone or proving a point.[/QUOTE]
To be fair, the "no selfless deed" thing is sort of factually correct. Everything is filtered through the ego, and you have to feel good to do it, and although you may ultimately gain nothing material, your still proving to others how powerful you are and how they must rely on you. This doesn't make those deeds bad, nor are you or the deeds lesser for it just because you hada subconscious benefit from it, it's just that you're not the totally selfess Jesus Christ that you'd think you are.
[QUOTE=greeley;47904173]I believe there is no selfless good deed because everybody gets satisfaction out of helping someone or proving a point.[/QUOTE]
What if you don't wanna do something your friend wants to do, but you end up doing it to make them happy even if you won't like it?
[QUOTE=Bordellimies;47904240]What if you don't wanna do something your friend wants to do, but you end up doing it to make them happy even if you won't like it?[/QUOTE]
You're getting friend points for it, they are appreciating your company so you're helping them in a way that makes you happy.
Because if you truly didn't want to go, then you wouldn't
[QUOTE=Bordellimies;47904240]What if you don't wanna do something your friend wants to do, but you end up doing it to make them happy even if you won't like it?[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't call that a selfless act in the first place. That's just nagging someone and doing the thing so they'd shut the fuck up
[editline]8th June 2015[/editline]
When I'm listening to epic, booming music, I usually think up epic battles and stuff to go along with it, even if thematically it'd make no sense. This applies even when it's dubstep with lyrics about twerking, which is just funny.
When I get [B]really[/B] into a game I get sweaty. Like, soaked pits and damp chair sweaty.
Fighting games get me SO MUCH FUCKING SALTIER than any other kind of game. I don't know why
[QUOTE=EuSKalduna;47908584]Fighting games get me SO MUCH FUCKING SALTIER than any other kind of game. I don't know why[/QUOTE]
Yeah, but they taste good with black pepper.
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