[QUOTE=Davidn64;47927836]I have the fear of rejection[/QUOTE]
Why, if you don't mind me asking? People are going to say no every now and then, and it's not like you're gonna be stoned to death if they do. Just say "okay" and move on.
I wish I could afford a therapist, because there is probably something wrong with me because I don't actually want platonic friends. I just find people boring.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;47927557]I don't want friends but I want a girlfriend, yeah I know it's weird but that's just my personality. I can't even meet new people because:
1) I'm not going to a college any time soon
2) The place I'll be working at is night shift and no young women work there
3) There are - zero - recreation spots to meet people within 5 kilometres of me
4) Dating sites and stuff like Tinder just don't work
So I'm stuck[/QUOTE]
Don't give up dude. You gotta build confidence in yourself, plus relationships just happen you can't force them, trust me I know. Sooner or later though you'll find a girl that likes you.
[QUOTE=Water-Marine;47927859]Why, if you don't mind me asking? People are going to say no every now and then, and it's not like you're gonna be stoned to death if they do. Just say "okay" and move on.[/QUOTE]
Its the heartbreak that "No" brings. Sometimes it takes time to move on.
[QUOTE=Water-Marine;47927859]Why, if you don't mind me asking? People are going to say no every now and then, and it's not like you're gonna be stoned to death if they do. Just say "okay" and move on.[/QUOTE]
tbh i think being rejected from someone i really liked was honestly one of the best things to happen to me recently. it was a gigantic load off my shoulders that'd been there for a few years and i feel like i can now move on.
i also realized that as you said, it's really not that bad. sucked badly the first day but i came to realize it's not as "life or death" as it seems in the moment
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;47927862]I wish I could afford a therapist, because there is probably something wrong with me because I don't actually want platonic friends. I just find people boring.[/QUOTE]
girlfriends are people too
if you find people boring in general why would you want a girlfriend, non-platonic relationships involve people too
girls are people why would -
why
okay
girls are people
they're people
i'm sorry this is so crazy they are people also
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;47927862]I wish I could afford a therapist, because there is probably something wrong with me because I don't actually want platonic friends. I just find people boring.[/QUOTE]
Well that's pretty much what a girlfriend is dude, a friend that you can talk and relate to.
If you can't build an interest in people how can you build an interest in a girl?
[QUOTE=KOS-MOS;47927868]Its the heartbreak that "No" brings. Sometimes it takes time to move on.[/QUOTE]
Reverse the roles, look at that perspective. You wouldn't say yes to every person that asked you, I wouldn't think. I don't mean to sound rude when I say this but they're people too, you can't build up gigantic expectations when life itself is pretty random.
is there a "always appear offline" FP option?
i always just found it odd how lots of people reply to posts regularly but never have the green lines under their name.
[QUOTE=Water-Marine;47927859]Why, if you don't mind me asking? People are going to say no every now and then, and it's not like you're gonna be stoned to death if they do. Just say "okay" and move on.[/QUOTE]
It's mostly an issue with a friend of mine on steam. I made a post in the depression thread about it.
[QUOTE=TheWhiteFox1;47927900]is there a "always appear offline" FP option?
i always just found it odd how lots of people reply to posts regularly but never have the green lines under their name.[/QUOTE]
Yeah its a gold only feature, its in the user settings
[QUOTE=Dr._Medic;47927894]Well that's pretty much what a girlfriend is dude, a friend that you can talk and relate to.
If you can't build an interest in people how can you build an interest in a girl?[/QUOTE]
If I was able to see a therapist or psychologist I could probably get that helped, also I didn't mean to say that girls aren't people
[QUOTE=Dr._Medic;47927909]Yeah its a gold only feature, its in the user settings[/QUOTE]
NEAT
[editline]11th June 2015[/editline]
god i can't stop listening to these few certain songs.
i'm kinda pissed off cause i know i'm gonna get burnt out on them and end up not liking them anymore but no other song satisfies me atm
I think I am starting to love math. I have been torturing myself with equations for hours.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;47927910]If I was able to see a therapist or psychologist I could probably get that helped, also I didn't mean to say that girls aren't people[/QUOTE]
That's alright dude, I know you didn't mean to say it I'm just saying you can't expect for a girl to all of a sudden want you.
You gotta build a friendship and work your way up. That's how I ended up with my girlfriend, we started out as friends we started talking to each other found out we had similar interests, did stuff together like watch watch anime and play vidya 'n' stuff. Then eventually one thing led to another and I found my match.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;47927910]If I was able to see a therapist or psychologist I could probably get that helped, also I didn't mean to say that girls aren't people[/QUOTE]
you don't necessarily need a therapist, i mean if you want to see one and have access to one by all means go for it but if you don't it doesn't mean you're beyond help and just blowing it off as that being the case won't help much either
i think what would help most is honestly asking yourself [I]why[/I] you don't want any platonic relationships and think people are boring and yet you still want a girlfriend
just saying "something's wrong with me" isn't gonna help and you can do a lot of good being a bit introspective
[QUOTE=GreenIguana;47927825]Never heard of Lost at Sea but I loved Scott Pilgrim. Is this a good book[/QUOTE]
it's really good but don't go into it thinking it's anything like scott pilgrim.
[QUOTE=KOS-MOS;47927936]I think I am starting to love math. I have been torturing myself with equations for hours.[/QUOTE]
I had an odd infatuation with differential equations when I took an Environmental Eng class. I still feel like I know absolutely nothing about them but fuck it's cool to take something like laplace transforms to solve a practical problem
i spent three years thinking therapists and psychologists were the be all end all of what would help me
they helped, don't get me wrong, but it wasn't until i started to take responsibility for myself that i started to feel any better
i still have my struggles but honestly realizing that you are the one who needs to spark the change in yourself is hugely important
[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;47927962]i spent three years thinking therapists and psychologists were the be all end all of what would help me
they helped, don't get me wrong, but it wasn't until i started to take responsibility for myself that i started to feel any better
[B]i still have my struggles but honestly realizing that you are the one who needs to spark the change in yourself is hugely important[/B][/QUOTE]
as someone who feels i'm finally starting to understand this and am all around feeling real good about life atm i've gotta say congratulations for changing yourself for the better
[QUOTE=Blazedol;47927942]it's really good but don't go into it thinking it's anything like scott pilgrim.[/QUOTE]
I've been meaning to pick up Lost at Sea, after having finished Scott pilgrim-- and his newer book, Seconds, too.
Why I don't want platonic relationships? I just find people boring, I would rather be by myself 95% of the time. I'm not assertive, I've been called things like "emotionless robot" and "monotone", I spend a lot of the time in my head or in a fantasy world so I can escape from all the boring stuff. I don't feel extremes in emotion, I've been like this all my life ever since I was born.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;47927990]Why I don't want platonic relationships? I just find people boring, I would rather be by myself 95% of the time. I'm not assertive, I've been called things like "emotionless robot" and "monotone", I spend a lot of the time in my head or in a fantasy world so I can escape from all the boring stuff. I don't feel extremes in emotion, I've been like this all my life ever since I was born.[/QUOTE]
so why do you want a girlfriend?
that's still the question you need to ask yourself
if you find people boring and you feel all this other stuff then why do you want a girlfriend?
[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;47928000]so why do you want a girlfriend?
that's still the question you need to ask yourself
if you find people boring and you feel all this other stuff then why do you want a girlfriend?[/QUOTE]
I don't know why, I guess I feel like I want affection by one other person because I've never had that growing up.
Party I was gonna go to tomorrow just got cancelled because the dumbass dude got caught buying booze while under the legal age.
Oh well.
[sp]Too be honest I didn't really want to go anyways[/sp]
I never liked going to parties.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;47928009]I don't know why, I guess I feel like I want affection by one other person because I've never had that growing up.[/QUOTE]
and romantic affection is the only way to attain that? that's not true at all.
if you want to feel affection from someone else you kinda have to realize that having an attitude of "people are boring" is not the way to go.
why is platonic affection such a bad thing? the strongest relationship i've ever had with someone i've met in my life is platonic and honestly that's sorta set the bar for romantic relationships for me
if you open yourself up to befriending people i think you'll find that a romantic relationship isn't the only thing you need in life
just saying "people are boring" isn't the solution
if you legitimately think every human on earth is boring why do you come here to talk to other people?
you probably don't find people as boring as you think you do
[QUOTE=Dr._Medic;47928032]Party I was gonna go to tomorrow just got cancelled because the dumbass dude got caught buying booze while under the legal age.
Oh well.
[sp]Too be honest I didn't really want to go anyways[/sp][/QUOTE]
Oh, the joys of living in the ArkLaTex. Bootleg liquor stores at every border.
I'm surprised he couldn't find someone to do it for him.
[QUOTE=~Kiwi~v2;47928046]I used to think parties were cool and all and all about getting smashed and laid.
I was very wrong and the only parties I enjoy are lan parties and weddings.
Everything else can fuck right off.[/QUOTE]
getting smashed at lan parties (especially if they're smash parties) is the best tho
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