I was just in jail for 3 months. - General

[QUOTE=White;41028766]This is all really hard for me right now. My friends wont stop texting me and facebooking me everything my ex is doing. She's going on a whore rampage having sex with all my old friends. She's taking pictures with my son and other guys.. It's all really heartbreaking to hear my son is around other guys he might think are his dad and I just don't know what to do. I don't really have anyone to talk to about all this and It's hard. My sons only 1 years old he can't possibly remember who I am after its been about 3 and a half months since he's seen me. I feel like I just need a hug but theres no one here to hug me. I feel like pouring out my emotions on facepunch is the last thing I should do. I just don't have anywhere else to let out all my thoughts and concerns. I keep telling myself everything is going to be ok but the last few nights have been really hard on me. I cried for about 2 hours last night and my anxiety was through the roof. I keep letting my thoughts go on overdrive and think about everything my son is doing. I can't go anywhere near him because of the stay away order. I've never felt so powerless and upset in my life. I just need someone right now that's going to reasure me everything is going to be ok..[/QUOTE] Everything will be alright. Yknow what we should all cheer you up by planning a set date to get some beers. Even though I'm underage

[QUOTE=smileykiller447;41041829]Everything will be alright. Yknow what we should all cheer you up by planning a set date to get some beers. Even though I'm underage[/QUOTE] Thank you for the offer but sadly I can't touch alcohol let alone be anywhere near a bar until I'm 22..

[QUOTE=White;40985007] She made a recorded statement when the police arrived on 'the scene' so no she didn't have to show up. She showed up once and that was just to say her statement was true and not false. I thought she was going to tell the truth and come forward to the D.A. because that's what she told me when she visited me the very few times she did in visitation. She visited the first few weeks I was in jail basically. I asked her in visitation why she was doing all this and she said she still wanted to be with me and that she loved me more then ever. I allowed her to overwhelm me with emotions which is where I went wrong. I clung to her like she was all I had. I was pathetic and scared that's what got me. She was visiting me and telling me all that bullshit about how she loves me and cant wait for me to get out. Then one day she asked me to tell my mom to give her my laptop. That's when I thought something was up so I just told her no not until I get out of jail. She even called my mom and said I told her to tell my mom she can take the laptop. So my mom visited me the next week after that asking me if I said it was ok for her to give my ex my laptop. I said no and for the rest of the time I was in jail which was about 2 months after that, my ex never visited me again and hasn't spoken to me since. It doesn't really bother me anymore though I'm just trying to give more detail in my replys. [/QUOTE] Looking through your posts, I'm amazed at how you're handling the situation. I'm sure the jail experience would change my perspective, but if a woman ever pulled that shit on me, I would have a very strong desire to actually do something that would land me a few years in prison.

[QUOTE=polarbear.;41042624]Looking through your posts, I'm amazed at how you're handling the situation. I'm sure the jail experience would change my perspective, but if a woman ever pulled that shit on me, I would have a very strong desire to actually do something that would land me a few years in prison.[/QUOTE] Beleive me at first i had a very strong desire to do a lot of things. Time heals everything. [editline]17th June 2013[/editline] Today was fathers day and I had no chance of seeing my son. It's been about 4 months since I've seen my son now. It's been a long and hard day for me.

[QUOTE=White;41014563]My outlook on going to jail is only positive besides the fines and domestic violance classes. I won't have a felony on my record so getting a job should be as easy as always. I'm currently chopping wood for a family friend but that's under the table. I don't have a record so people can't just look me up and see me in the wifebeater section so I'm pretty sure I'm good. So far my ex girlfriend has tried contacting me numerous times through friends and by banging on my mothers door for an hour straight. She is going crazy since I haven't made any attempt to talk to her or even get a hold of her and people are telling her I'm working and she can't get a dime of it since it's under the table. Her friends must think I'm stupid because they've always hated me now their asking me about what I'm doing like theirs no tomorrow.[/QUOTE] i feel like she still wants you back so she does these things sometimes with out even realizing it...maybe its too late and a lot more damage has been done but i don't know...3 months compared to a lifetime with you 2 and your son(plus him having a mother and father) maybe a big bump in the road that you get past and brings you closer together?...maybe she wont leave you for sure after? i don't know but she wants you back badly and she has a lot of energy for you that's built up i think you said she knew she made a mistake and it seems like she couldn't fix it because of the rules of the system and it would get back at her too,she didnt want to screw herself up or put your boy in a orphanage,it seems really sticky...i dont think she really knew the consequences of her actions... go ahead write a book,you have an excellent voice and these people here know it too. just start a profile where people can donate money to you and send a link. [editline]17th June 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=arimi;41065618]i feel like she still wants you back so she does these things sometimes with out even realizing it...maybe its too late and a lot more damage has been done but i don't know...3 months compared to a lifetime with you 2 and your son(plus him having a mother and father) maybe a big bump in the road that you get past and brings you closer together?...maybe she wont leave you for sure after? i don't know but she wants you back badly and she has a lot of energy for you that's built up i think you said she knew she made a mistake and it seems like she couldn't fix it because of the rules of the system and it would get back at her too,she didnt want to screw herself up or put your boy in a orphanage,it seems really sticky...i dont think she really knew the consequences of her actions... go ahead write a book,you have an excellent voice and these people here know it too. just start a profile where people can donate money to you and send a link.[/QUOTE] also unrelated but good song,check it out [video=youtube;mToL6e1-H5w]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mToL6e1-H5w[/video]

My heart goes out to you, White. Godspeed you!

[QUOTE=arimi;41065618]i feel like she still wants you back so she does these things sometimes with out even realizing it...maybe its too late and a lot more damage has been done but i don't know...3 months compared to a lifetime with you 2 and your son(plus him having a mother and father) maybe a big bump in the road that you get past and brings you closer together?...maybe she wont leave you for sure after? i don't know but she wants you back badly and she has a lot of energy for you that's built up i think you said she knew she made a mistake and it seems like she couldn't fix it because of the rules of the system and it would get back at her too,she didnt want to screw herself up or put your boy in a orphanage,it seems really sticky...i dont think she really knew the consequences of her actions... go ahead write a book,you have an excellent voice and these people here know it too. just start a profile where people can donate money to you and send a link. [editline]17th June 2013[/editline] [/QUOTE] I honestly don't know what to think. I feel that what is done is done and theirs no going back this time. She's already cheated on me once and everyone I know told me I deserve better. She's been messing around the whole time I've been in jail from what I've heard. I don't know what to believe other then I miss my family. I know it sounds absurd but I went through everything with her. We went on walks and went out to dinner almost every night when she was pregnant. I was by her side the entire time I even cut the cord when our son was born. I feel like letting go is whats hard for me right now. I just keep letting my pride get in the way and tell me that I can't go back with her because everyone will think I'm pathetic and weak. They would say things like "But she threw you in jail for 3 months!" or "She's been having sex with everyone and your still getting back with her? Wow!" I just miss sitting in the living room watching yo gabba gabba with my son and sharing my food with him and playing with him. I don't even remember what he sounds like. I want to hear him laugh, I want to make him laugh.. I hate all these mixed thoughts going through my head I honestly don't know what to do right now.

[QUOTE=White;41065806] White's post[/QUOTE] Personally, I think you should get back with her and prove she's an unfit parent, file for custody, and then get the hell out of a place with such a messed up legal system. My older cousin robert has a similar situation, except he has three children. He's not allowed to see them, and his ex-wife keeps trying to claim that the children aren't really his, despite the fact all three of them resemble him to the point where if you held up a baby picture of robert next to one of them, you would think it's a picture of the child. He's been trying to just prove she's an unfit parent, get custody, and then move to another part of ohio. What's disturbing is the fact his ex-wife doesn't care for her children. She leaves them in shit stained diapers for days at a time, barely pays attention to their needs, and leaves them at their grandma's house at random hours of the night. Needless to say, some people are just terrible. You should really consider moving past her as a person. Don't ruin her life, but don't get involved with her anymore after (If you do get custody) you have your kid. Good luck man.

[QUOTE=White;41065806]I honestly don't know what to think. I feel that what is done is done and theirs no going back this time. She's already cheated on me once and everyone I know told me I deserve better. She's been messing around the whole time I've been in jail from what I've heard. I don't know what to believe other then I miss my family. I know it sounds absurd but I went through everything with her. We went on walks and went out to dinner almost every night when she was pregnant. I was by her side the entire time I even cut the cord when our son was born. I feel like letting go is whats hard for me right now. I just keep letting my pride get in the way and tell me that I can't go back with her because everyone will think I'm pathetic and weak. They would say things like "But she threw you in jail for 3 months!" or "She's been having sex with everyone and your still getting back with her? Wow!" I just miss sitting in the living room watching yo gabba gabba with my son and sharing my food with him and playing with him. I don't even remember what he sounds like. I want to hear him laugh, I want to make him laugh.. I hate all these mixed thoughts going through my head I honestly don't know what to do right now.[/QUOTE] well when you were in prison there was a lot of confusion and emotions from what it seems,her visiting you and talking and then not,you 2 were in a long term fight and she might have needed someone to rely on but from the issues/anger and confusions it could have altered her choices and what made it worse was not being able to talk to her ever so you left off with a bad note. we live in a society where women are seen and treated like little girls until they get past 30 and so they are going to act like confused little girls. if you do get back with her let her know she cant fuck it up but in a angry tone or something she should be afraid of loosing you once you are back to together you can also take the kid if she blew her last chance so say something like "now we back together if you fuck it up ill take custody of my boy"

[QUOTE=Chaoswolf725;41065875]My older cousin robert has a similar situation, except he has three children. He's not allowed to see them, and his ex-wife keeps trying to claim that the children aren't really his, despite the fact all three of them resemble him to the point where if you held up a baby picture of robert next to one of them, you would think it's a picture of the child. He's been trying to just prove she's an unfit parent, get custody, and then move to another part of ohio. What's disturbing is the fact his ex-wife doesn't care for her children. She leaves them in shit stained diapers for days at a time, barely pays attention to their needs, and leaves them at their grandma's house at random hours of the night. Needless to say, some people are just terrible.[/QUOTE] Tell that dude to get photo evidence, either through a friend or through the grandmother or SOMEONE. FUCK, Hire me and I'll do it. Regardless though, custody cases are hard as hell to pull off, especially when it involves getting rid of the mother. My ex's mother was [I]psycho[/I] from day 1 and it still took her grandparents 12 years to get her away from her mother and with her grandparents. And even then the system absolutely failed her and continued to fuck her over until she turned 18.

I really dont think getting back with her is any sort of good idea. Just move on and live your life the best you can. If she wants him back thats her own problem, shes buggered that up beyond repair at this point. She might want him back because she feels lost without him too, but thats missing a relationship not missing a person. Its a very important difference. I also dont think that means he can take advantage of that and her to try to prove she is an unfit mother or something. Unless she is trying to drown the kid its basically impossible to do, and really a terrible idea. It would be a financial burden on both sides, so whichever place he ended up in would be worse off and less able to care for the little tyke.

White, as far as wanting the old back I understand and if you think it's really really worth it then please try it, in my opinion don't, don't do that don't let her have more of you. I had a relationship and it was a bad one. Because of a friend I just stopped with her and stopped that relationship it was hard, it hurt , and I felt lost, but I found someone that is world's better than my ex and from my experience it's worth. Also lovely book list thank you.

[QUOTE=Rhenae;41066849]but thats missing a relationship not missing a person. Its a very important difference.[/QUOTE] That for some reason helped me. I thought about this really hard and it seems as if that is what I'm going through. I miss having someone their for me. I don't really miss her.

Just a little update for the people who read this thread. I moved to Crescent City, CA with the permission of my probation officer to get a travel pass. I just got a call from my mother today and she told me Currys letter just arrived in the mail at her house. She will be bringing it to me on the 4th of July so I will upload the portrait he drew and if needed the letter he sent me as well.

This was a fantastic thread, and you are a fantastic person. I usually just lurk and occasionally rate and I know you've heard this a hundred times already but it's absolutely true. Are you still accepting donations? I don't make much but you deserve it much more than I do.

I am at a loss of words man, I can't believe what you have been through.

It's been weeks since I heard from this thread. Nice to be hearing from you again White.

This is one the best stories I've ever read on the internet.

Is Curry by any chance Eddy Curry? Oh nevermind he's in China.

[QUOTE=Zeekybomb343;41274093]This was a fantastic thread, and you are a fantastic person. I usually just lurk and occasionally rate and I know you've heard this a hundred times already but it's absolutely true. Are you still accepting donations? I don't make much but you deserve it much more than I do.[/QUOTE] I do accept small donations like cheap steam games etc. The thread wasn't intended for any type of fund raiser but I'll gladly take generous gifts if they're offered.

Just got the letter from my mother today from my dear friend Curry. [IMG]http://img827.imageshack.us/img827/3088/fzsu.png[/IMG] Dear Casper, What's up my lil'nigga. Shit, don't think I forgot you, but I was waiting to write to you after I finish drawing your picture, and sorry about casper I couldn't get a pic of him and went to court so I could tell you what was going on. Shit's lookin good for me finna be out of here soon to get my life back on track and that promise I made to you dont trip I got your back on smelly shanelly. Now this game I got for you is for you, your a good nigga man you got a good head on your shoulders you just got to pinpoint what your good at and what you know will make you content. Egoisme a deux = Involves people who have not received from life a self-completeness that would enable them to come to an experience whole in themselves. So, you had some time in jail to think about what you gotta do, Now your out on the street doing what you need to do. Like I always told you, you gotta do the things you don't want to do now, so you can do the things you want to do later on in life. We gotta keep that executive approach to life -> keeping our mindset on the virtues of organized living -> never letting ours settle for less, we strong man. So we can never let em see us on our knees begging for nothing. As men we have to know "how" our actions help shape that future we want "you hear me"? This shit is important because it gives us a drive (motivation) point -> Money only empowers our mission, but the connections Solidifies it and holds true value in the end -> don't short change your imagination it can happen -> Never think you got it all figured out "nobody" likes a know it all, so don't count any information you receive as criticism, but take it all as advice. Keep ya head up boy don't give UP -> Just look at me, don't give up for nobody -> keep ya eyes on the target/future and go. love ya bro See-U-N-A-Min (See you in a minute) Loyalty is Royalty with Respect Limmie Curry Tell Travis & Laroo & Alex I said whats up and I send my love. Thats the whole letter word for word.

Update: I will be going to see Curry in visitation on tuesday since I'm in Eureka for court for the next week. I'll update this thread with what we talk about and don't think I forgot about writing that short story because I've been working on it ever since the idea was given.

Curry is the coolest dude ever, holy shit.

This thread was probablies the most interesting ive ever read

I love this thread; that letter and the artwork is amazing.

[QUOTE=id05245;41339032]I love this thread; that letter and the artwork is amazing.[/QUOTE] Believe me the artwork looks a lot better in person. Theirs a lot of shading and extra hidden details you can't really see with the poor picture quality of my cellphone.

This was a great, great read. Don't forget to keep us posted when you go visit him!

lol u deserved it

[QUOTE=White;41330696]Just got the letter from my mother today from my dear friend Curry.[/QUOTE] Hey, I recognize the dude in the gas mask :v: [IMG]http://media.rockstargames.com/rockstargames/img/global/news/upload/actual_1351091842.jpg[/IMG] OT: You're an incredible person, best thread I've read on FP. Can't wait to hear more from you, White.

[QUOTE=ForDaNords;41340884]Hey, I recognize the dude in the gas mask :v: [IMG]http://media.rockstargames.com/rockstargames/img/global/news/upload/actual_1351091842.jpg[/IMG] OT: You're an incredible person, best thread I've read on FP. Can't wait to hear more from you, White.[/QUOTE] That's weird I wonder if that was in one of his game informer magazines.