I was just in jail for 3 months. - General

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Hey guys just thought I would update you on what's going on. Last night my ex called me and she cried to me begging for me back and she said she was sorry for everything and she was just 'scared' and 'too busy' to visit me. I don't know what to think she insists that she only hung out with one guy and they didn't do anything while I was in jail but I don't believe it because that one guy was her ex from 5 years ago. I'm not sure I want to give her another chance or not. I'm finally becoming happy with my life now she's trying to jump back in. She's telling me she wants to go to relationship counseling and fix everything she says I'm the only guy she wants to be with. She's saying that her life is terrible right now taking care of our son and working at McDonalds full time. She doesn't care if I work she says she will support me 100% but I'm more of a man then that I want to work. I don't know what to do I'm thinking about what my options are and if this is what I want. I also had my first domestic violence class yesterday and let me tell you it fucking sucks and is complete and total torture. I wish I could just forget about everything that happened and get back with her but it's not that easy. My trust is broken and I don't have any confidence in her being committed. I'm in a pretty difficult spot right now because she just calls me every minute of the day and texts me like theirs no tomorrow. She's on my back and is always criticizing me over facebook due to other girls liking my pictures or my statuses and she constantly wants to know where I'm at and who I'm with. I didn't even tell her were back together I just said I would think about it.

[QUOTE=White;41511850]Hey guys just thought I would update you on what's going on. Last night my ex called me and she cried to me begging for me back and she said she was sorry for everything and she was just 'scared' and 'too busy' to visit me. I don't know what to think she insists that she only hung out with one guy and they didn't do anything while I was in jail but I don't believe it because that one guy was her ex from 5 years ago. I'm not sure I want to give her another chance or not. I'm finally becoming happy with my life now she's trying to jump back in. She's telling me she wants to go to relationship counseling and fix everything she says I'm the only guy she wants to be with. She's saying that her life is terrible right now taking care of our son and working at McDonalds full time. She doesn't care if I work she says she will support me 100% but I'm more of a man then that I want to work. I don't know what to do I'm thinking about what my options are and if this is what I want. I also had my first domestic violence class yesterday and let me tell you it fucking sucks and is complete and total torture. I wish I could just forget about everything that happened and get back with her but it's not that easy. My trust is broken and I don't have any confidence in her being committed. I'm in a pretty difficult spot right now because she just calls me every minute of the day and texts me like theirs no tomorrow. She's on my back and is always criticizing me over facebook due to other girls liking my pictures or my statuses and she constantly wants to know where I'm at and who I'm with. I didn't even tell her were back together I just said I would think about it.[/QUOTE] I haven't read the whole thread, so excuse me if I'm missing something obvious. I would say: Don't fucking do it bro. She is probably feeling extremely guilty about getting you sent to prison, as well as cheating on you with her ex, and she thinks that if you can forgive her she can forgive herself. Furthermore, would you ever be able to forgive her for that? What if you had gone to prison for 5 years? Shes already lying, of course she cares if you work - she will support both of you and your son on McDick's wage? She fucked her life over temporarily, and just like sending you to jail, this is the quickest fix. I'm sorry if you love her or something, but you have to love yourself more, do what's right for you and the kid. What if the kid grows up and sees you separate, hears the fighting, etc etc. Just my 2 cents.

[QUOTE=White;41511850]Hey guys just thought I would update you on what's going on. Last night my ex called me and she cried to me begging for me back and she said she was sorry for everything and she was just 'scared' and 'too busy' to visit me. I don't know what to think she insists that she only hung out with one guy and they didn't do anything while I was in jail but I don't believe it because that one guy was her ex from 5 years ago. I'm not sure I want to give her another chance or not. I'm finally becoming happy with my life now she's trying to jump back in. She's telling me she wants to go to relationship counseling and fix everything she says I'm the only guy she wants to be with. She's saying that her life is terrible right now taking care of our son and working at McDonalds full time. She doesn't care if I work she says she will support me 100% but I'm more of a man then that I want to work. I don't know what to do I'm thinking about what my options are and if this is what I want. I also had my first domestic violence class yesterday and let me tell you it fucking sucks and is complete and total torture. I wish I could just forget about everything that happened and get back with her but it's not that easy. My trust is broken and I don't have any confidence in her being committed. I'm in a pretty difficult spot right now because she just calls me every minute of the day and texts me like theirs no tomorrow. She's on my back and is always criticizing me over facebook due to other girls liking my pictures or my statuses and she constantly wants to know where I'm at and who I'm with. I didn't even tell her were back together I just said I would think about it.[/QUOTE] Don't stick your Dick in crazy. I wouldn't go back even if she feels "sorry".

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

[QUOTE=White;41511850]Hey guys just thought I would update you on what's going on. Last night my ex called me and she cried to me begging for me back and she said she was sorry for everything and she was just 'scared' and 'too busy' to visit me. I don't know what to think she insists that she only hung out with one guy and they didn't do anything while I was in jail but I don't believe it because that one guy was her ex from 5 years ago. I'm not sure I want to give her another chance or not. I'm finally becoming happy with my life now she's trying to jump back in. She's telling me she wants to go to relationship counseling and fix everything she says I'm the only guy she wants to be with. She's saying that her life is terrible right now taking care of our son and working at McDonalds full time. She doesn't care if I work she says she will support me 100% but I'm more of a man then that I want to work. I don't know what to do I'm thinking about what my options are and if this is what I want. I also had my first domestic violence class yesterday and let me tell you it fucking sucks and is complete and total torture. I wish I could just forget about everything that happened and get back with her but it's not that easy. My trust is broken and I don't have any confidence in her being committed. I'm in a pretty difficult spot right now because she just calls me every minute of the day and texts me like theirs no tomorrow. She's on my back and is always criticizing me over facebook due to other girls liking my pictures or my statuses and she constantly wants to know where I'm at and who I'm with. I didn't even tell her were back together I just said I would think about it.[/QUOTE] Hypocrisy at it finest. imo you can't start a fresh confident relationship after what happened, and she just want to get rid of the guity feeling...

DON'T FUCKING DO IT.

honestly mate, Don't do it, arrange something where you can meet up, have coffee, etc etc, so that you can see your kid, cos that is something you should have But if you get together, you are likely to, whether you mean to or not, slip back into old habits.. she honestly, from someone that isn't involved, like a 2-bit lying scum on the bottom of your boots... just stay seperate, have the kid on weekends and days off, stay on good terms. dont have sex... imho. honestly man, she works at macca's... she can't support a house, car (im guessing) food, a son and a husband/boyfriend... sounds like shes in it for a good ride... sorry if i rambled a bit..

Hey guys I read your advice and I really took it all into consideration. I got to thinking and just said fuck her. She did way too much to me and I deserve much better. I have to talk about my experience last night because it was so amazing and it made me feel so great about myself. So last night I was with my cousins and we were drinking. I got on facebook and messaged this girl that usually texts me and I told her I wanted to see her really badly. We haven't seen each other since the 6th grade and she really likes me. I used to be a huge nerd now I'm all muscular and hit a growth spurt and hit 6 foot 3 so she practically fell in love with me when we met up. I can't forget to mention it was 3 a.m. when I messaged her and she agreed to hang out at the middle school we used to go to. Make a long story short it took about 30 minutes of being their with her and she was already trying to get in my pants. My ex girlfriend was calling me the whole time and texting me. When I noticed my ex calling and texting me I decided to take it to the next level. I don't want to get too graphic but she started telling me she was really wet and wanted me more then shes ever wanted anyone before. So I took her in the middle of the track and we boned until 6 a.m. I ended up getting home at around 8 in the morning. Don't get me wrong either she wasn't ugly. She was really cute and stayed short. I like short girls but not midgets I'm pretty weird. I don't want to get too into detail I feel like I'm typing out a porn scene. It was amazing though and she fucking loved it which made me love it even more. My ex never moaned like this girl did last night. Lol I'm going too far I just wanted to paint a picture and give you guys an idea of what happened in as much detail as I can give without making it too graphic.

WHY CAN I NOT UN-SEE WHAT MY MIND HAS SEEN!?!?! good you had a good night tho man... I honestly wasn't expecting that... in this thread. also, good on ya for reading and thinking about our advice.

[QUOTE=White;41533596]Hey guys I read your advice and I really took it all into consideration. I got to thinking and just said fuck her. She did way too much to me and I deserve much better. I have to talk about my experience last night because it was so amazing and it made me feel so great about myself. So last night I was with my cousins and we were drinking. I got on facebook and messaged this girl that usually texts me and I told her I wanted to see her really badly. We haven't seen each other since the 6th grade and she really likes me. I used to be a huge nerd now I'm all muscular and hit a growth spurt and hit 6 foot 3 so she practically fell in love with me when we met up. I can't forget to mention it was 3 a.m. when I messaged her and she agreed to hang out at the middle school we used to go to. Make a long story short it took about 30 minutes of being their with her and she was already trying to get in my pants. My ex girlfriend was calling me the whole time and texting me. When I noticed my ex calling and texting me I decided to take it to the next level. I don't want to get too graphic but she started telling me she was really wet and wanted me more then shes ever wanted anyone before. So I took her in the middle of the track and we boned until 6 a.m. I ended up getting home at around 8 in the morning. Don't get me wrong either she wasn't ugly. She was really cute and stayed short. I like short girls but not midgets I'm pretty weird. I don't want to get too into detail I feel like I'm typing out a porn scene. It was amazing though and she fucking loved it which made me love it even more. My ex never moaned like this girl did last night. Lol I'm going too far I just wanted to paint a picture and give you guys an idea of what happened in as much detail as I can give without making it too graphic.[/QUOTE] Nice! I've always wanted to fuck outdoors

Your experiences enforce my reasons for screwing the entire relationship idea. I'd rather focus on living a successful life. I wish you the best of luck, good sir. Also, you should try and meet up with Curry again, whenever possible. From what I've read, he sounds like a pretty awesome guy you wouldn't want to lose.

Here's an update on Curry's case guys. By the way I received a letter from him yesterday and he told me everything is going great and he should be getting out as soon as he's found not guilty. I'm going to visit him this Sunday while I'm in eureka for the weekend. Update: [url]http://www.willitsnews.com/news/ci_23712944/judge-no-mistrial-curry-defense-motions-denied-willow[/url]

Just read all 10 pages White, really amazing stuff! Wish I had something more inciteful to say. It was really interesting reading through your posts, each one varied in emotions over a month and a half. In general you just seem to be getting better and better, keep it up!

Hey guys just wanted to update you all on whats going on in my life. I've been in Eureka for the passed three days and I'm going to see Curry tomorrow when visitation is available. I got to see my son and take him to the zoo yesterday and it was very emotional. He has changed so much but he didn't forget me. Right when I saw him he said "Da Da" and I couldn't help tearing up. He is so big now and so smart and can do so many cool things. He even gave me a kiss a few times and it was the sweetest thing. I have a probation appointment tomorrow not really looking forward to it. I also have to be honest with you guys unlike everyone in my family. I saw my ex girlfriend. I spent the night with her and we talked and she cried and cried to me saying how sorry she was for what had happened and she had too much on her plate to risk going to jail for perjury. I don't really know what to believe but I don't really care. I still have feelings for her and I love the hell out of my son. He was really happy to see us all together as a family and it almost seemed like everything was too good to be true. You can tell me what I'm doing is wrong and stupid or even pathetic but it won't change my mind. I know what I want and I'm going to chase my dreams of making sure my son has both of his real parents not some asshole step dad that treats him like shit like my moms boyfriend did to me and my brother. I thank all of you for being somewhat here for me and listening to my situation because indeed I needed to tell someone and vent to someone about it or else I would of went insane by keeping my thoughts to myself.

White, you're the NO.1 facepuncher here. Rock on mate :rock:

Any update about visiting Curry?

I visited Curry and he claims all is well but he's usually just a really happy go lucky guy. He seemed like everything was going okay and he says he can't wait to get out and hang out. I just got back in Crescent City a while ago and their was a letter from him he asked me If I got yet and I said no but I guess it arrived today.

What did the letter say? If you don't mind sharing

This letter was a little more personal I would of loved to share it with you guys but the last visit I had with Curry I told him about Facepunch and my thread and he didn't exactly agree with it all. So I'm just going to keep you guys updated on what I'm doing and his case. Here is some bad news.. [url]http://www.times-standard.com/localnews/ci_23765841/hung-jury-curry-case-mistrial-declared-jurors-cant[/url]

It warms my heart so much to see how much your life has been improving, White. To be safe with your girlfriend however, you should start visiting a therapist of sorts together. If you feel a dangerous argument coming up you should at all means [U]avoid[/U] it anyway possible. Also you should start writing that book soon, when your memory is the most clear about the events that have been going on -- you can write more to the book as your life goes on. One last thing, don't feel pressured to post everything. You have a right to share only what you feel comfortable and safe with. Godspeed White, I'm sure Curry's case will end well.

[QUOTE=White;41665098]This letter was a little more personal I would of loved to share it with you guys but the last visit I had with Curry I told him about Facepunch and my thread and he didn't exactly agree with it all. So I'm just going to keep you guys updated on what I'm doing and his case. Here is some bad news.. [url]http://www.times-standard.com/localnews/ci_23765841/hung-jury-curry-case-mistrial-declared-jurors-cant[/url][/QUOTE] So that means that there is another court meeting in september? They really dont like curry do they... :/ Bastards.

I've been adding a few entries into the story every now and then it's really coming together. I don't plan on making it public until it's perfect in my eyes and everyone can truly understand how my experience really was. It's also pretty difficult remembering everything that happened in the sequence it did. It will be released someday though that's all that matters. Thank you for your support I really appreciate the positive thoughts and comments.

White, your story is touching, and I can imagine that simply posting on a forum doesn't do it justice. Am I right? On an off note, this quote from Carl Sagan may interest you- [IMG]http://p.twimg.com/AtjNKggCQAASw8L.jpg:large[/IMG] [I]"I don't know where I'm going, but I'm on my way."[/I] Just thought it suited you and your story nicely. Good luck my friend.

[QUOTE=Samg381;41669540]White, your story is touching, and I can imagine that simply posting on a forum doesn't do it justice. Am I right? On an off note, this quote from Carl Sagan may interest you- [IMG]http://p.twimg.com/AtjNKggCQAASw8L.jpg:large[/IMG] [I]"I don't know where I'm going, but I'm on my way."[/I] Just thought it suited you and your story nicely. Good luck my friend.[/QUOTE] I agree with you on that I never felt it would do me any good other then some support by posting it on Facepunch. I know theirs still good people who visit this forum so I came too it just seeking some people to vent to and describe my feelings for what happened because I don't really have anyone I can talk to about it in my current life situation. I'm glad I posted it so far I've only gotten positive feedback and everything that's been posted has warmed my heart and made me happier then not posting it.

Hey White, since you posted in my thread about what happened to me, which is way insignificant to what you've been through, I decided to read through everything you've been through, and it really hit me man. How are things with you now?

[QUOTE=White;41533596]Hey guys I read your advice and I really took it all into consideration. I got to thinking and just said fuck her. She did way too much to me and I deserve much better. I have to talk about my experience last night because it was so amazing and it made me feel so great about myself. So last night I was with my cousins and we were drinking. I got on facebook and messaged this girl that usually texts me and I told her I wanted to see her really badly. We haven't seen each other since the 6th grade and she really likes me. I used to be a huge nerd now I'm all muscular and hit a growth spurt and hit 6 foot 3 so she practically fell in love with me when we met up. I can't forget to mention it was 3 a.m. when I messaged her and she agreed to hang out at the middle school we used to go to. Make a long story short it took about 30 minutes of being their with her and she was already trying to get in my pants. My ex girlfriend was calling me the whole time and texting me. When I noticed my ex calling and texting me I decided to take it to the next level. I don't want to get too graphic but she started telling me she was really wet and wanted me more then shes ever wanted anyone before. So I took her in the middle of the track and we boned until 6 a.m. I ended up getting home at around 8 in the morning. Don't get me wrong either she wasn't ugly. She was really cute and stayed short. I like short girls but not midgets I'm pretty weird. I don't want to get too into detail I feel like I'm typing out a porn scene. It was amazing though and she fucking loved it which made me love it even more. My ex never moaned like this girl did last night. Lol I'm going too far I just wanted to paint a picture and give you guys an idea of what happened in as much detail as I can give without making it too graphic.[/QUOTE] I'm glad for you. I wish I was there to see it.

[QUOTE=AltUser;41853506]Hey White, since you posted in my thread about what happened to me, which is way insignificant to what you've been through, I decided to read through everything you've been through, and it really hit me man. How are things with you now?[/QUOTE] Everything is actually going the way I planned finally. For a while I was a little depressed because I couldn't find work but my uncle just hooked me up with a roofing job in construction that pays really nice. I actually have a new girlfriend, me and my ex didn't work things out and that was my final decision. I'm trying to just start over with someone else and let's just say the girl I'm with now is a much better person and is way better looking. I'm living with her in her apartment until we can afford to rent a house in town. I'm also going to college part time for digital media. The DV classes and community service I'm just going to put off for about a month until we get this house and everything is settled.

[QUOTE=White;41862812]Everything is actually going the way I planned finally. For a while I was a little depressed because I couldn't find work but my uncle just hooked me up with a roofing job in construction that pays really nice. I actually have a new girlfriend, me and my ex didn't work things out and that was my final decision. I'm trying to just start over with someone else and let's just say the girl I'm with now is a much better person and is way better looking. I'm living with her in her apartment until we can afford to rent a house in town. I'm also going to college part time for digital media. The DV classes and community service I'm just going to put off for about a month until we get this house and everything is settled.[/QUOTE] I am so glad for you man, I just know things will work out for you, you really deserve it. I hope things work out with this new girlfriend, good luck to you!

I have some bad news for the people who were looking forward to the book I was working on about my story. Last night in front of Wal-mart my laptop was stolen right out of my car with all my work, school assignments and many more things I needed. Now I'm thinking I have no choice but to drop this semester until I can afford a new laptop and this time I won't be getting windows 8 that's for sure. Just when I thought things were getting good too :/