I was just in jail for 3 months. - General

[QUOTE=smileykiller447;41015878]"what comes around goes around".[/QUOTE] [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TOrnUquxtwA[/media] Forgive me for my lateness just found out how to use media tags again..

this topic has made me happy, sad, amused, inspired and angry bravo op best thread i've read since I've been on fp

White, you're one of the most real motherfuckers alive, i would buy your book 10 times over if it helped you.

I'd get a copy.

White, I hope you get all you need and live a happy life. You deserve it.

If you get a chance, can you maybe type out some of the books you read dealing with philosophy? I'm really curious.

There wasn't any thread that really touched me for a while, and this thread actually did it. Good job op, hope you can live a better life.

[QUOTE=Cyber;41019445]If you get a chance, can you maybe type out some of the books you read dealing with philosophy? I'm really curious.[/QUOTE] The most helpful books I read in their were: The 48 Laws of Power 33 Strategies of War The Art of Seduction The Four Agreements The Tipping Point Being and Time Philosophy and the Mirror of Nature

White that's amazing that you have found people to help you and/or a job like that. You seem really into philosophy have you checked out Taoism by any chance and/or meditation it's quite nice. What're your plans for the future?

[QUOTE=id05245;41021426]White that's amazing that you have found people to help you and/or a job like that. You seem really into philosophy have you checked out Taoism by any chance and/or meditation it's quite nice. What're your plans for the future?[/QUOTE] I read a bunch of books on meditation I believe one was called Meditation too. I meditated 30 minutes a day on lunch lockdown it was part of my routine. Once you learn about meditation you find that it doesn't matter how long you meditate it's how you do it that really helps or improves yourself. I'm reapplying for classes at my local college and hope to find a real steady job instead of chopping wood and taking opportunities on craigslist every chance I get. I hope to get custody of my son in the near future and be a single father for a while. Right now I'm trying to get some money saved up for a car or at least a bicycle since the car I bought before I went to jail I lazily let my ex put in her name..

good luck to you,though I haven't spoken to you much you seem like an interesting person and that you'd make a good friend to all.

Just finished reading this thread, I wish you the best luck man that's a lot you went through.

This is all really hard for me right now. My friends wont stop texting me and facebooking me everything my ex is doing. She's going on a whore rampage having sex with all my old friends. She's taking pictures with my son and other guys.. It's all really heartbreaking to hear my son is around other guys he might think are his dad and I just don't know what to do. I don't really have anyone to talk to about all this and It's hard. My sons only 1 years old he can't possibly remember who I am after its been about 3 and a half months since he's seen me. I feel like I just need a hug but theres no one here to hug me. I feel like pouring out my emotions on facepunch is the last thing I should do. I just don't have anywhere else to let out all my thoughts and concerns. I keep telling myself everything is going to be ok but the last few nights have been really hard on me. I cried for about 2 hours last night and my anxiety was through the roof. I keep letting my thoughts go on overdrive and think about everything my son is doing. I can't go anywhere near him because of the stay away order. I've never felt so powerless and upset in my life. I just need someone right now that's going to reasure me everything is going to be ok..

This is the best thread I think I've ever read. I'd buy the shit out of your book if you wrote one, and I'd show it to all my friends. I even got a good buddy who spent a few months in prison.

Damn White. I wish I could hug you... but I can't I live in Netherlands man. How old are you anyway?

[QUOTE=coverop;41029412]Damn White. I wish I could hug you... but I can't I live in Netherlands man. How old are you anyway?[/QUOTE] It's alright I just keep doubting that I can be happy and find love again and possibly start a real family. I worked hard for what I had and then it was taken from me. Now I have to work even harder to be able to start my life up again and to even be around my son. I don't want to start over with someone all over again you know? I was with my ex for 3 years and I told her all my problems and she listened for all I know. I'm just feeling alone right now and have no one to turn to and talk to about it. I just turned 20 a few months ago by the way.

[QUOTE=White;41028766]This is all really hard for me right now. My friends wont stop texting me and facebooking me everything my ex is doing. She's going on a whore rampage having sex with all my old friends. She's taking pictures with my son and other guys.. It's all really heartbreaking to hear my son is around other guys he might think are his dad and I just don't know what to do. I don't really have anyone to talk to about all this and It's hard. My sons only 1 years old he can't possibly remember who I am after its been about 3 and a half months since he's seen me. I feel like I just need a hug but theres no one here to hug me. I feel like pouring out my emotions on facepunch is the last thing I should do. I just don't have anywhere else to let out all my thoughts and concerns. I keep telling myself everything is going to be ok but the last few nights have been really hard on me. I cried for about 2 hours last night and my anxiety was through the roof. I keep letting my thoughts go on overdrive and think about everything my son is doing. I can't go anywhere near him because of the stay away order. I've never felt so powerless and upset in my life. I just need someone right now that's going to reasure me everything is going to be ok..[/QUOTE] Outrageous how your friends don't know what you're going through. If it bothers you too much you might as well switch your phone number and deactivate your facebook for time being. Don't worry bro everything will get better, just give it some time.

This world needs more people like White.

This thread is really heart moving. No body deserves what you are going through / went through. The prison and jail system is beyond fucked up and innocent people like you get jail time they don't deserve. Jail and prison in general worries and scares the piss out of me, and yet I live less than a mile from the biggest prison system in my state. It is it's own little world since you don't hear anything from the area. This also makes me take a whole new perspective on women and people in general. Kinda fucked up people can be both inside and outside of the system. But it also teaches me how there is some cherry picked few that are kind hearted. Curry, your wood chopping friend, family and obviously you. Life is a unfair place. Cold hearted, scary, dark, unforgiving place. I just wish everything in the future works out positivly for you and hopefully for your son. I don't know your religious backgrounds or beliefs; I'm not a religious man but my thoughts goes out to you. And I'm pretty sure everone at facepunch is too. Godspeed White, Godspeed.

Good god OP after reading all this i cannot tell you i need an experience similar to jail. I feel so trapped in my home which is why I want to just get a van and get away, I have good intentions but my mind feels like it's in tatters sometimes. Thank you White.

[QUOTE=White;41028766]This is all really hard for me right now. My friends wont stop texting me and facebooking me everything my ex is doing. She's going on a whore rampage having sex with all my old friends. She's taking pictures with my son and other guys.. It's all really heartbreaking to hear my son is around other guys he might think are his dad and I just don't know what to do. I don't really have anyone to talk to about all this and It's hard. My sons only 1 years old he can't possibly remember who I am after its been about 3 and a half months since he's seen me. I feel like I just need a hug but theres no one here to hug me. I feel like pouring out my emotions on facepunch is the last thing I should do. I just don't have anywhere else to let out all my thoughts and concerns. I keep telling myself everything is going to be ok but the last few nights have been really hard on me. I cried for about 2 hours last night and my anxiety was through the roof. I keep letting my thoughts go on overdrive and think about everything my son is doing. I can't go anywhere near him because of the stay away order. I've never felt so powerless and upset in my life. I just need someone right now that's going to reasure me everything is going to be ok..[/QUOTE] Hey man, I read through this entire thread and it was "interesting". Unfortunately, there's not much I can do to help you directly. If I lived near you I would have gladly invited you to take a drink. But I really feel, after reading your experience and especially how you reacted to it, that you really are a nice person. And I can't say this much for most of the people on the internet. It's really sad that you have to get through this. Life can be a real bitch. But I'm sure everything will turn out ok for you, even if it may take a while. Being a good person always pays out in the end. You're doing the right thing by not wanting to take revenge on your ex, she has proven to be nothing but a hindrance in your life and you should just keep her away. Unfortunately for you she has your son for the moment, which is complete bullshit ; but I'm sure that your son won't hate you, no matter what her mother tells him. He will never have witnessed you doing anything wrong and that's what counts the most. In the worst possible case, even if you can't get him back soon, I'm sure he would get around to wanting to see you when he gets older and you will be able to get him back. I don't really know where I'm going with this to be honest, I'm just saying things as they come to me. But I'm really convinced that things will get better for you in the end. This is a really rough moment you're going through in your life. I can't do much about it, but my best thoughts go to you. Try to go through this as best as you can, and in the end I know things will work out for you. Thank you for sharing this with us, your wisdom benefits several people. I don't really know how to voice this (my english isn't the best), but I will support you in thoughts. Stay brave

Hey White- do you know of the chances of winning a case if the original "victim" explains that what she said happened didnt really happen? One of my closest friends is in a tight spot right now- his sister had another period of extreme paranoia (she's schizophrenic) and called the police, saying that he attacked her (which all happened in her own head). My poor friend had to spend 4 days in jail and is now facing a minimum of six months in prison. The thing thats really fucked up is, his sister told the police that nothing really happened, but they still took him to jail. Any advice at all?

Reading all of this the past few weeks really changed my view on the US jail system.

Good thing I'm not planning to go to calif or the states anytime soon. you got some fucked up prison system. good story though.

In my time on Facepunch, this is the best thread I've ever come across.

Just keep staying strong White, keep staying strong for the sake of your son, and for the sake of your future. You have learned a lot during your undeserved time, but you have inspired all of us. We may not able to reach you physically but we are all here to lend an ear. Just immerse yourself and keep yourself busy with something that is productive. Writing a book would be the perfect way to occupy your time in my opinion, recalling back all the lessons your learnt during your time. Love from Malaysia! Good luck with your life! Im a muslim and i know you are a christian but ill be praying for you regardless! And remember you are an inspiration! Inspiration is something very rare to find and you are one of it my friend. Salam.

[QUOTE=ashxu;40945875]This sounds so surreal, like it was outta a movie.[/QUOTE] [I]The Shawshank Redemption[/I]

[QUOTE=Metherat;41031637]Hey White- do you know of the chances of winning a case if the original "victim" explains that what she said happened didnt really happen? One of my closest friends is in a tight spot right now- his sister had another period of extreme paranoia (she's schizophrenic) and called the police, saying that he attacked her (which all happened in her own head). My poor friend had to spend 4 days in jail and is now facing a minimum of six months in prison. The thing thats really fucked up is, his sister told the police that nothing really happened, but they still took him to jail. Any advice at all?[/QUOTE] No matter what the victim says as long as it's a female and it's a domestic violance case there's no way she can just come in and say he didn't do all that. If she was to come in and say she wanted to come forward and make a statement to the D.A. then maybe she could turn things around. In my case my ex offered to do that then she didn't because she already made a recorded statement and once you do that the D.A. takes over and has full control over the case. She told the D.A. she wanted to make another statement and they told her they would throw our son in foster care and give her possible 30 days in jail for false information to an officer of the law and she could possibly be fined. I was told in jail thats a bunch of bullshit and the D.A. wants to scare the victim into not coming forward because then that D.A. has to drop his/her case and that lessens his/her conviction rate which is all they care about. I tried telling my ex this in visiting but her excuse was "I just got a job at McDonalds I can't get caught up with any of this drama right now!" so she never came forward, after that she just stopped visiting me and didn't show up to any further court dates. If the victim in your case came forward and told the D.A. she was schizo they would more then likely drop the case and let your friend go with no charges just a booking fee which is $660 for our county jail I don't know about yours. If the victim in his case made a recorded statement it's pretty much too late unless she shows up to trial and says on the stand she has a mental disability and none of what she said ever happened, then maybe he would be free to go but he would be sitting their for up to 4 months awaiting trial unless he requested a speedy trial at his arraignment.

Thanks, but theres probably little chance of her not being frightened by the DA and making a statement- so thanks for all the advice- I've passed it along to my friend, hopefully he makes it through. I'm planning on sending him letters twice every week if he goes to jail- just telling him whats going on, both in our neighborhood and the world. He's strangely optimistic about it- "If I go to jail, at least I'll be forced to quit smoking."

Just bored doing a little research on my friend Curry here, thought this little bit of information and pictures of Curry when he was 19 might add onto the story. [url]http://www.times-standard.com/editorials/ci_20187705/we-welcome-federal-attention-right-places[/url] [url]http://www.northcoastjournal.com/Blogthing/archives/2010/02/22/icky-sounding-murder-investigation[/url] [url]http://www.topix.com/forum/source/the-willits-news/THVCVM6SNC3GVS8O3[/url] Facebook account when he was 19 years old, he's now 23 and looks a lot different and believe me the pictures may looka bit immature but we were all 19 at one point and he's a lot different now. [url]https://www.facebook.com/limmie.curry[/url] His profile picture was taken weeks before he was taken into custody.