[QUOTE=ZOMG_HAXX;43983994]Take a longer holiday, maybe a month or a couple of weeks. Travel through a larger area i.e. the countries around the south China sea, road trip along one of the coasts in the US, or around the Caribbean sea, whatever what you think you might like.
I'd say that it would be better to take a long holiday at first, to meet new people, get some new experiences.
When you come home you will have lots of stories to tell your girlfriend, perhaps she will think it really does sound like fun, and will perhaps be more willingly to the whole living abroad situation.
I found myself in a similar situation last year, I was really, really tired of work, and afraid of being stuck in my current life situation. So I decided to visit a couple of friends who were studying in Japan at the time. I were there for 2 weeks, and had a really good time. Note that I did spent quite a lot of time without mentioned friends, because they still had school to attend. I explored the city and did whatever I felt like.
Also, don't think to much about the language barrier when you decide where you're going, if I were able to get around with my non existant japanese skills in a country where they aren't too good with speaking english, anyone can get around everywhere. Especially since I have a food allergy no one outside northern Europe has heard of.
Also, stay in hostels as much as you can, you will meet a lot more interesting people with different life experiences, maybe they will give you some ideas.
I hope I gave you some ideas and that I made sense.[/QUOTE]
This is a great post, i think i will go on a holiday alone for a week somewhere in europe. try living on my own for a while and see how i get on!
This might give me the chance to truely find what i want!
Hi, this story may not be relevant to you but it might be insightful for things to come. I'll try and leave out as much as I can.
When I was 20 years old I fell in love with a girl. The kind of love that makes you do things you normally wouldn't do against better judgement.
We had dated for about a year, and everything was going great. She wanted to move back to Vermont to be with her family while one of them was sick. After 3 months of being away from her I decided to move to Vermont to be closer to her. My current situation wasn't that good anyway, it was actually pretty bad so I didn't have much to lose with the move. Broken down vehicle, no home, family being snobby hypocrites. That kind of deal.
I moved to Vermont a couple months after turning 21. I found a great job, had a nice income, and a great apartment. I was pretty happy with my self.
Six months after being there everything kind of fell a part. She had become one of those women that only wanted money and nothing else so we split up.
I also found out she had slept around. And most of what she told me the year of dating prior to the move was made up including the dying relative part.
I lost my good job because of economic issues. Had to move and find room mates of the worse quality just so I could stay under a roof. I had very little money saved up because of the ex girlfriend. Very little money at all because of work and expenses.
It's very hard to find a decent job when you don't know very many people to make connections with.
I haven't had a break in this current situation for going over 5 years now and all I can think about is going back home. Which I am doing. Slowly, by saving up money to rent a moving truck and the gas it costs to travel from Vermont to Texas.
Maybe you'll do everything right and not end up in a similar situation. If you're very familiar with an area and know a lot of people then it shouldn't be too hard to adjust to life wherever you go. Otherwise, it's insanely difficult to make it through.
tl;dr
just smoke pot or something and stay where you are
[QUOTE=false prophet;43984665]Hi, this story may not be relevant to you but it might be insightful for things to come. I'll try and leave out as much as I can.
When I was 20 years old I fell in love with a girl. The kind of love that makes you do things you normally wouldn't do against better judgement.
We had dated for about a year, and everything was going great. She wanted to move back to Vermont to be with her family while one of them was sick. After 3 months of being away from her I decided to move to Vermont to be closer to her. My current situation wasn't that good anyway, it was actually pretty bad so I didn't have much to lose with the move. Broken down vehicle, no home, family being snobby hypocrites. That kind of deal.
I moved to Vermont a couple months after turning 21. I found a great job, had a nice income, and a great apartment. I was pretty happy with my self.
Six months after being there everything kind of fell a part. She had become one of those women that only wanted money and nothing else so we split up.
I also found out she had slept around. And most of what she told me the year of dating prior to the move was made up including the dying relative part.
I lost my good job because of economic issues. Had to move and find room mates of the worse quality just so I could stay under a roof. I had very little money saved up because of the ex girlfriend. Very little money at all because of work and expenses.
It's very hard to find a decent job when you don't know very many people to make connections with.
I haven't had a break in this current situation for going over 5 years now and all I can think about is going back home. Which I am doing. Slowly, by saving up money to rent a moving truck and the gas it costs to travel from Vermont to Texas.
Maybe you'll do everything right and not end up in a similar situation. If you're very familiar with an area and know a lot of people then it shouldn't be too hard to adjust to life wherever you go. Otherwise, it's insanely difficult to make it through.
tl;dr
just smoke pot or something and stay where you are[/QUOTE]
hahahahaha "just smoke pot or something"
I actually started smoking pot again recently and i still love it like i used to!
Why do you think pot will help me?
I feel as though life is passing me by and im only getting older and thats it
[QUOTE=jc90;43984273]This is a great post, i think i will go on a holiday alone for a week somewhere in europe. try living on my own for a while and see how i get on!
This might give me the chance to truely find what i want![/QUOTE]
I'm happy that I could help you out.
I think that's a great idea! Although, I would recommend not to rush anything, since I planned my trip in quite a short amount of time the flight weren't as cheap as they could have been, I would nevertheless not hesitate to pay that price again.
If you don't know exactly where you want to go, and are interested in architecture, culture and/or nature you can find some pretty amazing places by looking at UNESCO's World Heritage Site list, I found this place by just clicking at random on their webpage. [url]http://whc.unesco.org/en/list/98[/url]
Looks quite amazing, doesn't it?
I would also recommend that you try to do something that you can't do where you live or in your own country. I for example would like to jump in a wind tunnel (indoor skydiving), and I will probably do that the next time I'm in Britain. As far as I know you can only do that in UK and Switzerland/Austria in Europe.
And by doing things you wouldn't normally do (being out of your comfort zone) you will really expand your views. The further out you are the better.
Just do the extended vacation (Month or so), see how you like it, and if you think you'd prefer being there more then go for it, you have lots of time ahead of you my friend
and yeah smoke some pot
[QUOTE=Psychokitten;43976546]He said she wouldn't go.[/QUOTE]
I can see where this is going.
OP, wanderlust is normal. In this case, given your job and girlfriend, I think you stand to lose a lot more than you stand to gain if your gamble doesn't pay off. A whole year away can change a lot of things in a relationship, will definitely end your job, and you'll end up bitter and regretful when you return if things go wrong. I'd say take a couple of weeks, maybe a month instead, but don't extend it too long.
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