Eh, when you've had it as long as me, you learn to get by and appreciate some of the friends that you have who are around to help you out when you need it. I have the habit of always texting someone whenever I feel like this. I usually don't tell them that I feel like a nervous wreck, but I do.
But yeah, you learn to live with it really. It makes doing things like going out with friends a little difficult at times, but I can deal.
I never rely on my friends when it comes to this kind off stuff. My friends just aren't of the type you can talk to and expect understanding and support. Not that they're bad friends, they're great fun and all but you get what I mean.
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At the same time I don't really feel like I would like to talk about it anyways. But then again it can get really hard being around my friends feeling like this and most of my friends are kinda... relying on me?
She had his baby yesterday.
She said she would tell me where I could visit.
I haven't her from her since.
Fuck people.
[QUOTE=Makol;27253742]Something I need to get out there...
Recently met someone awesome, would be chill if something happens but I doubt anything will happen down the road. They're too good of a person to even consider being with me, I'm probably not worth the time or effort for anyone really. And I'm pretty sure neither of us are ready for anything to happen as it is given our current situations. If nothing happens that's how life works, but I'm sure we'll stay friends for a long time.[/QUOTE]
I typed this without realizing it. Too late to do anything about it now.
Yeah I understand. Well to be honest, the only friends I talk to about it are the ones I've met on here. My friends here in my hometown probably wouldn't be able to understand it as easily since most of them are busy living up their college years and have no problems with being hesitant or anxious about anything.
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;27257779]I never rely on my friends when it comes to this kind off stuff. My friends just aren't of the type you can talk to and expect understanding and support. Not that they're bad friends, they're great fun and all but you get what I mean.
[editline]7th January 2011[/editline]
At the same time I don't really feel like I would like to talk about it anyways. But then again it can get really hard being around my friends feeling like this and most of my friends are kinda... relying on me?[/QUOTE]
I'm here for you if you want to talk about something, we buddies gotta stick together and help eachother :smile:
[QUOTE=KillerTele;27257935]I'm here for you if you want to talk about something, we buddies gotta stick together and help eachother :smile:[/QUOTE]
Thanks bro!
[editline]7th January 2011[/editline]
Probably won't talk that much but it'll be nice to have atleast one IRL friend to know about how I feel! Thanks.
Any day bro!
I'm scared of the gills in mushrooms
I want to murder a kitten because I'm not getting to sleep easy enough. It takes me at least an hour-two hours of lying down to fall asleep. Why is this?
[QUOTE=Pascall;27257394]
What I try to do is, develop an addiction to something that'll get your mind off of it. For me, I developed an addiction to gum. Like a hardcore addiction. The only thing it does to potentially harm me though is a certain ingredient which messes with your stomach, but it's great to just chew some minty gum and it totally takes my mind off of something. It's much better than developing an addiction to a drug or drinking, too. You can try it, if you want. Might work for you like it worked for me. Worth a shot.[/QUOTE]
Nothing wrong with addiction to drinking, as long as you keep it moderated.
Sure, if you're a drinker.
But if you're not, gum is a healthier alternative.
[QUOTE=geogzm;27258402]I want to murder a kitten because I'm not getting to sleep easy enough. It takes me at least an hour-two hours of lying down to fall asleep. Why is this?[/QUOTE]
maybe you have insomnia? You may want to see a doctor about something like that
[editline]7th January 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Makol;27257819]I typed this without realizing it. Too late to do anything about it now.[/QUOTE]
Stop with all that negative talk. Just let the future happen. If you have feelings for someone try to pursue them and spend time with that person. If they don't share the same feelings that's ok, life goes on. There's an ass ton of people out there who are all unique.
[editline]7th January 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Adius Shadow;27253843]I'm still in love with my ex who broke my heart. And now she wants me back, went over to fix her computer and she wanted to basically make love to me but I said I had to go. I kissed her though and it was kind of "awkward."
I feel like a fucking idiot going through this emotion for someone who tore me apart last year.[/QUOTE]
i wouldn't be so rushed to just give up on her. Why did you two break up to begin with? You some reason, try talking to her about it. Hang out with her some just as friends, maybe she saw that she fucked up or something. It really depends if she's just a selfish bitch or something don't invest your time and emotion on someone like that but don't give up on someone that quickly. Talk to her
I was in a negative mood yesterday.
[editline]7th January 2011[/editline]
I'm over it now though.
i'm glad. Try to keep things in perspective and try to not look down on yourself, you're just a person like everyone else. We all fuck up.
So, there is some stuff I really need to get off my chest.
I am 21 years old and I have had a lot of girlfriends up till now but I can say for sure I've never ever really fallen in love.
That stuff changed though in 2010: I met a girl who comes visiting here every year with her parents.
I only met her in the last week she stayed here, but I fell for her rather quickly (suprisingly, as I was rather sceptic if I would ever met anyone like her).
After that I did not know what happened to me: I cried my heart out.. I was so fucking lonely. I stayed inside all day, every day. My social life was ruined. I had panic attacks and anxiety attacks (and I still do). My love even turned into sheer hate for her and then back again.
Yes, we talked a lot on the internet but I felt our words just teared us apart more.
I felt she filled up something in me I was looking for all my life.
It's been five months since I've seen her and another 2 months till I go visit her. But here comes the scary part: I can't remember how it felt to be with her. I just cannot recall the feeling. I feel as if my mind just shut me off from the feelings I had/have for her as a form of self-defense. I am so scared. I am scared that, when I see her the spark is just not there anymore and that I am going to realize that the love I had for her just made me blind.
I long for the feeling so much and I feel it is so wrong too. I feel that I deal with this situation in a very wrong way. I don't have anyone to talk to about this either. I'm clueless.. please help :(
Just relax, man. There's no need to get hyper anxious or ruin your social life like that. If there's a spark then great, if there's no then you'll find someone else. There's a fuck ton of people out there and contrary to popular belief there are a lot of "the one"'s out there.
Try to relax, i know it can be hard when it comes to love but there's more to life than romance. Enjoy it, man. Be glad you love someone but don't mourn their absence too much and just dwell on it.
So, I just type some stuff down here, to ease myself in a way...
It's kinda complex and I don't really know where to start :/
First off, I pay very much attention to my workouts, eating habits and stuff like that. I've gotten sick of school, where most of the part your obtained knowledge has no practical use whatsoever and I don't see any real sense in it.This pretty much kills me from the inside, every time I learn for an exam, I get all angry because of all this theoretical bullshit I am supposed to bang in my head. I learn very hard for pretty much each and every exam and test (except for the subject "German", because every exercise pisses me off to the unimaginable); though, I end up with 3-5, 2 if hell just froze over.
What I want is to start working. No more of this unpractical bullshit. I mean, school's meant to be preparing you for REAL life. Ah, now put form Number #4 in a survival situation, with the "skills" and "knowledge" they've learned in school. THEY FUCKING DIE.
Let them repair something. Build something. Cook something. Do they know how stuff in the real world works? Not getting messed around with? No, for fuck's sake !
Thing is, all the teachers "see more in me; that I am capable of more" and some of them advised me doing some kind of intelligence test. My parents and I went to such a center, I took the test, woop-di-duh got an IQ of 112 or 120, can't remember anymore. Now everyone says that I should be doing better, they can't explain it and everytime I get a mediocre grade, they are all just "Oh, you surely just had a bad day." It wasn't just a bad day, goddamnit. I'm fed up with this shit. I can't do just the same boring exercises over and over again. I use much effort, but at some point the sickening is so great that I just say fuck it all. I even got into relative heavy arguments with teachers, which we had to continue after class. There, I laid out my point of view, and to my surprise, they understand. But they can't just do jackshit about it. Fuck >.<
To sum it up: I've enough of school and want to make my own plans.
Now when I DO make my own plans, school interferes, everyone is bitching around because "I am too experimental" and "Change stuff to fast", "Can't stick with one thing, eh" et cetera...
I mean, just let me work! Let me be a carpenter, worker, blacksmith, self-sustaining farmer, or things like that... Do you understand ?
I LOVE moving around! I would workout all night and day long if my body could manage it !
Everyone expects me to be a doctor, scientist or whatever...
While I do think science is interesting, as is philosophy, I spend time on the subjects because they are interesting themselves! I don't just want to learn everything about, simply talking with people who have interesting content is enough, damn it!
And I hate just theorizing about philosophical values. I've seen many people speak about them, but no one (or very, VERY few) had any practical experience whatsoever.
Maybe I've just been born in the wrong century, who knows.
Sorry for all this shit.
I know how to you feel in that aspect. My family always expected me to become a grade-A student on the honor roll and graduate as valedictorian.
Turns out, halfway through high school, I became a pretty big bum and didn't do much. Now I sit around on the internet practically all day, but I make a few bucks doing what I like every now and then. I use my time to further myself into the career I want, not what was expected of me. Those expectations are always going to be slapped on you, either by your parents or by society. But who are they to tell you what you're best at and what your passion should be?
Simply nod your head to whatever they have to say and continue to pursue a career and lifestyle that brings out the best in you. Don't worry about high expectations because they'll only bring you down.
Well, thanks mate. At least I know as of now that there are ways to work with this problem indeed :)
I simply have to take chances for my desired goals and endure my personal torture called school for 3 and a half years at least ^^
By the way, I really write stuff all woolly, eh <.<
Yeah as lame as school can be, it'll benefit you in the end. You might not see it now, but don't quit. Keep at it and you'll feel great for having accomplished something.
I do well in school, have a lot of friends and a great girlfriend, I'm a successful musician and artist and I think I'm a generally well liked person.
Nobody knows who I really am.
I'm terribly ashamed of my problems in my sex life. When I have sex with my girlfriend I can't get myself to reach orgasm. Hell, I find it easier to make her cum by oral sex or by fingering her, but when she gives me a handjob or traditional sex it feels fantastic, but I just can't climax.
I'm horrified she'll get sick of this and it'll cause a cascade of events that make her leave me. I'm way too deeply in love with her right now to brake up, I don't know how I'd manage to get over it.
I like the others on this page suffer from some type of anxiety disorder, it's different for me though, and it's combined with bouts of depression. I've talked to two or three experts or w/e about it, but I don't really like talking about it. I occasionally have things set me off, ANYTHING can send me into a like, panic attack I guess you could call it. I get this sudden feeling of nervous dread. It's fucking terrible, and it's not something I can predict. I also suffer from long and almost random bouts of depression. I'll be feeling the best I've ever felt in my entire life, things will be going great, I'll have great times with friends. And then I wake up one morning, and it's all gone. I don't even feel like getting out of bed, I don't feel like talking to people. I feel like this makes it hard for me to communicate my feelings to others, when I feel like this for weeks on end.
I feel that depression too, underneath all of this nervosity, except it doesn't come at random occasions, it's always there.
Been through that depression, maybe I can help you.
Long story short is that I thought too much. About my existence, why am I here, how did it begin, what I'm supposed to do here, why I have to go through this again, etc.
Didn't laugh for ~2 1/2 years.Been a robot.Only suppressing things.Not good, I tell you.
What helps is finding a passion. And indulging oneself in it.
For me, it's been martial arts and general sporty stuff + ways of sustaining myself.
What is yours ? :)
Playing piano is the closest to a passion I get. I love it, and it's nice to just sit down and play whatever comes up in my mind (I'm an improviser). A good way to handle emotions. But it doesn't keep me motivated, nothing does.
[QUOTE=Paravin;27262617]I'm terribly ashamed of my problems in my sex life. When I have sex with my girlfriend I can't get myself to reach orgasm. Hell, I find it easier to make her cum by oral sex or by fingering her, but when she gives me a handjob or traditional sex it feels fantastic, but I just can't climax.
I'm horrified she'll get sick of this and it'll cause a cascade of events that make her leave me. I'm way too deeply in love with her right now to brake up, I don't know how I'd manage to get over it.[/QUOTE]
i actually had this problem in my last relationship. It almost seemed like it was impossible for her to please me. She got really hurt that she couldn't please me and it was kind of one of the reasons we broke up but it wasn't the main reason. If everything else in your relationship is great than it shouldn't be a problem, especially if she can make you climax in other ways. It may or may not be your fault, man. With my current girlfriend i have no issues being able to climax. Just tell her shit you like when she does it and shit that you'd like her to do. Things will work out just talk to her.
[QUOTE=Thedashingrogue;25879285] Derp. [/QUOTE]
Lol, you should be thankful.
[QUOTE=Binsky;27264040]i actually had this problem in my last relationship. It almost seemed like it was impossible for her to please me. She got really hurt that she couldn't please me and it was kind of [B]one of the reasons we broke up but it wasn't the main reason[/B]. If everything else in your relationship is great than it shouldn't be a problem, especially if she can make you climax in other ways. It may or may not be your fault, man. With my current girlfriend i have no issues being able to climax. Just tell her shit you like when she does it and shit that you'd like her to do. Things will work out just talk to her.[/QUOTE]
Curse my fucking stamina.
[editline]7th January 2011[/editline]
I knew wanking a few times each day for a few years will cause problems. :smithicide:
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