[QUOTE=zombiefreak;27321938]Sorry about the quick posts but there's a new issue that's come up. My friends are starting to drink alcohol (We're around 14-16) and I get extremely uncomfortable around alcohol. I hate, no, despise the idea of losing control or having impaired judgement, and I have no idea why getting drunk is so great when you can do the same when you're sober. What should I do to counteract this uncomfortableness?[/QUOTE]
That's really understandable to feel that way at your age. I didn't start drinking until i was about 18. You can always play the roll as "parent" and make sure your friends don't get stupid drunk or do something retarded. Maybe voice your concern that they may be too young to be drinking and it's straight up unhealthy.
My cousins family found out I smoke weed, they are threatening to tell my parents and people at my church. This fucking sucks, why is it that big of a deal?
[QUOTE=Makol;27321314]Earlier in the week I was stressing over something that doesn't even matter now and constantly putting myself down/beating myself up over nothing really. Was all pretty foolish looking back on it. I've come to the conclusion that I will have to wait and see what happens in the up coming weeks.[/QUOTE]
Yeah man, just try to relax. What happens will happen.
[editline]10th January 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Glitch360;27322129]My cousins family found out I smoke weed, they are threatening to tell my parents and people at my church. This fucking sucks, why is it that big of a deal?[/QUOTE]
It's really not a huge deal. People are just scared and confused about things they don't understand like that. I hope that if they do tell that it doesn't hinder your life too much. Maybe you should lie and say you won't do it again or something?
[QUOTE=Binsky;27322272]Yeah man, just try to relax. What happens will happen.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, that's my plan. I really had no reason to be like I was earlier this week, lol.
[QUOTE=Makol;27322298]Yeah, that's my plan. I really had no reason to be like I was earlier this week, lol.[/QUOTE]
It's ok. We all do that. Just gotta keep things in perspective.
Btw i'm with my girlfriend right now and she said she'd be willing to give girl advice or advice, in general if anyone wants it :v:
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[QUOTE=Binsky;27322272] It's really not a huge deal. People are just scared and confused about things they don't understand like that. I hope that if they do tell that it doesn't hinder your life too much. Maybe you should lie and say you won't do it again or something?[/QUOTE]Maybe, but I don't think it would do much. My family and relatives are Russian aka strict and rough. I'm not saying that I'm gonna get beat up, but I could end up being mocked and ignored. And plus some of them are strict Christians, which just makes it worse. And a girl I've had a crush on for a year or so, goes to that church...
[QUOTE=Glitch360;27322503]Maybe, but I don't think it would do much. My family and relatives are Russian aka strict and rough. I'm not saying that I'm gonna get beat up, but I could end up being mocked and ignored. And plus some of them are strict Christians, which just makes it worse. And a girl I've had a crush on for a year or so, goes to that church...[/QUOTE]
That's rough, man. I don't know what you can really do about that. Maybe just deny it as long as there's no hard evidence?
Also, if the girl is going to judge you over some shit like that she isn't worth your time
[QUOTE=Binsky;27322348]It's ok. We all do that. Just gotta keep things in perspective.
Btw i'm with my girlfriend right now and she said she'd be willing to give girl advice or advice, in general if anyone wants it :v:[/QUOTE]
Can you ask her for any input on we talked about the other day?
[QUOTE=Aulims;27317672]You should be an inspirational speaker (unless you already are).
You know what, if she's not way too busy tomorrow (just found out I have the day off at BOTH of my schools (taking a class up at the local community college twice a week starting this week)), I'm giving her a call. I'm thinking movies, that a safe start?[/QUOTE]
if you do movies, it should be a dinner AND a movie, mainly to combat the fact that people dont talk much in movies, and women really want a date to get to know you, as you should get to know them. Depending where you live and age, try a Dave and Busters, its got some decent food and some fun activities you can bond over. But very good that you are motivated, almost as i was when i finally asked my crush out.
[QUOTE=Binsky;27322561]That's rough, man. I don't know what you can really do about that. Maybe just deny it as long as there's no hard evidence?
Also, if the girl is going to judge you over some shit like that she isn't worth your time[/QUOTE]Well the only evidence they have is that I smelled like weed and looked high.
Maybe you're right about the girl part....
[QUOTE=Glitch360;27322639]Well the only evidence they have is that I smelled like weed and looked high.
Maybe you're right about the girl part....[/QUOTE]
That's definitely not enough evidence to really prove anything just deny it and it should blow over. Maybe stop smoking for a bit too just in case.
And yeah if someone judges you over that it's kind of ridiculous IMO
[QUOTE=Binsky;27322807]That's definitely not enough evidence to really prove anything just deny it and it should blow over. Maybe stop smoking for a bit too just in case.
And yeah if someone judges you over that it's kind of ridiculous IMO[/QUOTE]Yeah, I'm gonna quit for a while. Thanks for your advice man, you're a kind person
anytime, man.
[editline]10th January 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Makol;27322575]Can you ask her for any input on we talked about the other day?[/QUOTE]
PM'd you her response
[QUOTE=Binsky;27322561]That's rough, man. I don't know what you can really do about that. Maybe just deny it as long as there's no hard evidence?
Also, if the girl is going to judge you over some shit like that she isn't worth your time[/QUOTE]
i completely agree. Weed is what you make of it. Before i smoked it i thought it was for losers and dropouts. But after i did it for the first time, i realized its nothing. I cant believe people make such a big deal about it, its pathetic. It makes things just a little more enjoyable, can it be addictive, yes if you let yourself get addicted. Anyway i feel that if someone defines a occasional pot smoker as a loser is terribly misinformed and ignorant. Its not that bad people.
One more thing: all of the stoner comics you non smokers see, thats NOT what happens when you smoke pot. All it does is make things slightly more funny (in essence it makes it easier to laugh, my best description of the feeling). You make feel euphoric, almost like you like to move around, it feels good to swing your body (a slight pleasure tingling feeling). but thats about it, NO STUPID HALLUCINATIONS.
[QUOTE=zombiefreak;27321938]Sorry about the quick posts but there's a new issue that's come up. My friends are starting to drink alcohol (We're around 14-16) and I get extremely uncomfortable around alcohol. I hate, no, despise the idea of losing control or having impaired judgement, and I have no idea why getting drunk is so great when you can do the same when you're sober. What should I do to counteract this uncomfortableness?[/QUOTE]
just hold the red cup and fill it with soda or whatever. Whenever i go to a party as the designated driver thats what i do, that way i dont look uncool or whatever. Its not like a care about what other people think of me for not drinking, but i just rather avoid a drunk person coming up to me telling me, "Let loose mannnnnn, have a shot, have some fuuuuunnnn!"
Also, you dont need drugs to have fun. Sure they are fun every now and then but dont make it the MAIN way to have fun. If you cant have fun without drugs/drinks then you have a problem, thats my rule.
[QUOTE=Cpn Crunch21;27323000]i completely agree. Weed is what you make of it. Before i smoked it i thought it was for losers and dropouts. But after i did it for the first time, i realized its nothing. I cant believe people make such a big deal about it, its pathetic. It makes things just a little more enjoyable, can it be addictive, yes if you let yourself get addicted. Anyway i feel that if someone defines a occasional pot smoker as a loser is terribly misinformed and ignorant. Its not that bad people.
One more thing: all of the stoner comics you non smokers see, thats NOT what happens when you smoke pot. All it does is make things slightly more funny (in essence it makes it easier to laugh, my best description of the feeling). You make feel euphoric, almost like you like to move around, it feels good to swing your body (a slight pleasure tingling feeling). but thats about it, NO STUPID HALLUCINATIONS.
just hold the red cup and fill it with soda or whatever. Whenever i go to a party as the designated driver thats what i do, that way i dont look uncool or whatever. Its not like a care about what other people think of me for not drinking, but i just rather avoid a drunk person coming up to me telling me, "Let loose mannnnnn, have a shot, have some fuuuuunnnn!"
Also, you dont need drugs to have fun. Sure they are fun every now and then but dont make it the MAIN way to have fun. If you cant have fun without drugs/drinks then you have a problem, thats my rule.[/QUOTE]If I'm high enough, and I close my eyes and start imagining things, it's similar to those comics. So not exactly hallucinating, but it just makes vivid colors. But yeah, weed is a misunderstood thing. Lot of people think that weed is very bad for you, and they think low of weed smokers. I smoke maybe once every 2-3 weeks, but to people who haven't smoked it, they generalize me as a "pothead"
I'm not gay.
I thought that I would probably flunk out of college after this semester. However, I wasn't certain that I would and I didn't want to cause a huge ordeal if it turned out they would take me back next semester. Hence, I hadn't told anyone about it, including my parents, who are helping pay for my tuition. The stress had been making me literally ill for the past 3 weeks.
After getting no word at all from the school, I decided that I should go back and re-read the dismissal policy and I found out that I'm actually in the clear, but there's still no way in hell I'm going to tell anyone about how poorly I did this semester, totally not worth the drama.
[QUOTE=sirbinks;27324035]I thought that I would probably flunk out of college after this semester. However, I wasn't certain that I would and I didn't want to cause a huge ordeal if it turned out they would take me back next semester. hence, I hadn't told anyone about it, including my parents, who are paying for my tuition. The stress had been making me literally ill for the past 3 weeks.
After getting no word at all from the school, I decided that I should go back and re-read the dismissal policy and I found out that I'm actually in the clear, but there's still no way in hell I'm going to tell anyone about how poorly I did this semester, totally not worth the drama.[/QUOTE]
wow..same here!..at least I think they're not kicking me out..yet
[QUOTE=XIII_GT;27324046]wow..same here!..at least I think they're not kicking me out..yet[/QUOTE]
Hah. Feels good knowing I'm not the only one out there fucking up his education.
I just had a really long but yet productive conversation with a friends about rather personal stuff and he said some things that put me back on the edge of "oh fuck this is never going to work" then back to "whatever happens will happen". Cleared a lot of shit up for me and helped me figure some stuff out I needed to have help with.
And I got small but very needed confidence boost.
[editline]10th January 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Binsky;27322852]PM'd you her response[/QUOTE]
Thank her for me, helped to have another view on things.
[editline]10th January 2011[/editline]
It was a fun chat in the end though, good way to end the night.
Some of my friend have been telling me to get back in contact with an ex of mine from like 4 years back. I kind of want to too but not because i have an attraction or anything. Just because he was fun to talk to before we got involved. I'm worrying about my more recent ex taking offense to it though (despite him readding his ex like a day after we broke up)
I know he's still not over it and I'd rather not have him freak out on me because of it. I have a feeling that if he knew about the guy I'm currently liking, he'd go apeshit too. I just don't want to give him a reason to freak out, but at the same time, I wanna do what I want.
I can see why you're worried about how your ex would react to anything right now but you really shouldn't let that affect the choices you make. The fact he added his ex right after you guys are over is a bit odd, but that's his decision. You should be making your own decisions as you see fit and not let the fear of others people's reaction to the decisions YOU make.
[editline]10th January 2011[/editline]
It's your life, you do what you want.
I find myself being more hypocritical by the day.
I have no problems rejecting a girl i deem unattractive, yet I am offended when I receive similar signals.
[QUOTE=Pascall;27324242]Some of my friend have been telling me to get back in contact with an ex of mine from like 4 years back. I kind of want to too but not because i have an attraction or anything. Just because he was fun to talk to before we got involved. I'm worrying about my more recent ex taking offense to it though (despite him readding his ex like a day after we broke up)
I know he's still not over it and I'd rather not have him freak out on me because of it. I have a feeling that if he knew about the guy I'm currently liking, he'd go apeshit too. I just don't want to give him a reason to freak out, but at the same time, I wanna do what I want.[/QUOTE]
Go do what you want, dont let some guy or his reaction stop you, unless of course you are trying to keep from hurting his feelings. It seems like he would freak out if you talked to anybody, so i would just say go for it because he's gonna freak out no matter what you do. Also, it seems like he's holding a double standard, he readded his ex and what not, why cant you just talk to your old friend/ex.
Go for it, dont let anyone control you, this is YOUR life, live it, love it, cherish it.
I have to agree with Cpn Crunch21 on this one seeing as we ended out posts with the same message.
Never let anyone ever control your decisions. It's your life therefore you make your own decisions. Who cares what others think about your choices? Fuck them.
I plan on making a decent sized post sometime in this thread but I wont do so until I have enough time to thuroughly write about the pathetic nature of my existence. For now I am giving everyone hearts as a token of my sympathy.
[editline]10th January 2011[/editline]
Accidentally rated someone funny in my drunkness. Mission failed. and I am sorry.
I was a just told a nice story by my best friend. :3:
I was in an off mood right now because of a major lack of sleep (I haven't slept since Friday night), but now I think I can go to sleep since I'm a better mood.
im really liking this thread, i kinda like being that little coach to get people through their problems. I think that is why im aspiring so be a clinical psychologist, i really enjoy giving advice and feeling like i helped someone conquer a problem, feels good man.
I think a huge thing of this thread and its success is its social support. Sometimes its all people need when they are in a rough situation, some one to open up to. I could go into a huge tangent about how modern civilization has rid people of social support (the support of a village, and how every one in a tribe was connected and helped eachother) but i dont want to get banned for derailing the thread, of course i would like to continue on with the info,so if i get an ok from a moderator i will finish this thought.
You and Binsky are the two biggest supporters of other in the is thread. Good job to the both of you.
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