[QUOTE=Aulims;27364642]"Aw, you're really nice/sweet, and I really like you, I do, but I just don't feel the same way."[/QUOTE]
I think the only thing worse than being rejected is being told something nice about yourself at the same time. It crushes your dreams while creating a new imaginary hope that you might actually be someone desirable, a thought that will torture you and made you feel lied to when nothing ever happens. :saddowns:
I'd rather be rejected and told that I'm too ugly, or my humor is too gruesome, or my beliefs too different, or my personality too annoying... anything that can explain why people don't want me.
If they tell me there's nothing wrong, I only feel lied to and cheated by life.
The only reason I'm such a philosophical-minded critic of relationships is because I've never been in one, and the first (and only) time I dared to ask someone out, she said yes and "reconsidered" her answer days later. She told me on Facebook, I didn't get close to a hug or even physical contact.
:smithicide:
So many girls i have met i would ask out. They are interested in the same things, are funny, smart, but they just knock you back, or i cant really see us having a relationship apart from having a few things in common.
Then you see a girl in the street, who gives you the kind of smile that wants you to talk to them, and i choke up and end up awkwardly walking away.
Girls are so difficult. :saddowns:
Emotions, god damn it, it's so awful. I feel so horrible, and I can't get myself to feel any better. I want to just ignore everything I feel, and not feel, not show any emotions and just shut them off... But I have to be nice and seem happy so that people won't dislike me. And to do that I have to know what it means to be happy and nice, and I even though I may not feel that I can not know it if I just shut it all off.
I find girl's perception of "romantic" rather weird.
They'll find love at first sight romantic even though it's just basically falling in love with someone because you find them sexually attractive, but they find guys who likes to get to know them before going out with them to be exploitive and boring :S
Oh well, good thing I'm bisexual.
Not many gay guys will feel insulted by compliments to their appearance, and will generally find it flattering when someone wants to have sex with them :v:
[QUOTE=Simski;27366883]I think the only thing worse than being rejected is being told something nice about yourself at the same time. It crushes your dreams while creating a new imaginary hope that you might actually be someone desirable, a thought that will torture you and made you feel lied to when nothing ever happens. :saddowns:
I'd rather be rejected and told that I'm too ugly, or my humor is too gruesome, or my beliefs too different, or my personality too annoying... anything that can explain why people don't want me.
If they tell me there's nothing wrong, I only feel lied to and cheated by life.[/QUOTE]
It's a surprise that I have any self esteem left after hearing that line soooo manyyyyy timesssss. I actually told someone that bit about the "you're really nice/sweet" rejection, and then a few days later when I asked them out they used it on me.
In another news, I woke up just now full of sadness and self-pity. All the happiness I had left (for the girl, being with someone and happy) is gone, the sense of peace is struggling to stay... Last time I really liked someone and asked them out, it was just straight sorrow for a few days.
I don't even bother asking people anymore.
If anything happens it will probably happen when I'm drunk, or when meeting up with someone for a one-night stand and just happening to get luckier than expected.
Seems like everyone questions what I want to do for a career. Hey everyone, it's [b]my[/b] career choice. Not yours.
School always puts me in a bad mood. I guess its the fact that I dont have to go to school, but if I want a higher chance of getting a good paying job I need to. And I hate school. Right before it started I was pretty happy. Now I have to drag myself through everyday until summer. The only thing I find entertaining right now is developing my game. And I cant even do that thanks to loads of homework. School is one of the few things that have the power to bum me out. Also it completely fries my brain. Often during the school year I will catch my self just staring at FP doing nothing with a hundred threads read and grayed out. I cant make schedules or anything. My brain just doesnt work. And it gets on my nerves.
[QUOTE=WeekendWarrior;27371166]Seems like everyone questions what I want to do for a career. Hey everyone, it's [b]my[/b] career choice. Not yours.[/QUOTE]
No, because nobody cares
[QUOTE=WeekendWarrior;27371166]Seems like everyone questions what I want to do for a career. Hey everyone, it's [b]my[/b] career choice. Not yours.[/QUOTE]
I can relate, buddy. My parents are clearly hesitant about me becoming a teacher. Just tell them it's something you're passionate about and want to do. Make sure it is really something you do want to do, though. Take their hesitancy into account. They're probably just trying to look out for you
HERE WE GO
[QUOTE=Simski] "you are really nice but i dont have feelings for you line" [/QUOTE]
This should not hurt your self esteem. Reason being, its more a a compliment. She is looking for that "wow" factor and you may not have it. But think about it, maybe to some other girl you do have that wow factor that puts you over the top of any other guy. You just gotta find that girl. She isnt lying to you, you are a good fellow and that should make you feel great. You dont have to fix anything, just find someone else. You are lucky, you dont have to fix your douchyness or uglyness, you simply have to move on.
[QUOTE=Docklie] sad story [/QUOTE]
Thats rough dude, but keep at it. You will find a girl to give you the best hug youve ever had.
[QUOTE=Aulims] sadness [/QUOTE]
It takes time like any other rejection. For the next few days its gonna suck dick.
[QUOTE=WeekendWarrior] career stuff. [/QUOTE]
I plan on becoming a clinical psychologist. Unfortunately i told my dad i was going to do psychiatry, so now hes always calling me Dr. last name and what not. I dont want to disappoint him, but i know he will be happy with me if i take my own route. Just do whatever you want to do and tell other to fuck off.
I have realised I am only happy when angry with someone. I also think that there is no point trying in school as we all die anyway, if my life is shit, just end it prematurely... right?
[editline]12th January 2011[/editline]
What a fucking amazing pageking.
[QUOTE=Cpn Crunch21;27374548]psychiatrist (but not really)[/QUOTE]
I had a fun dream, albeit random and off the wall, it was fun and I was in a good mood whilst I slept.
The moment I woke up it felt like getting hit by a train going full speed. Instant depression? No thank you.
Facepunch does cheer me up a bit, and your words help Cap'n.
Simply writing out "Should I ask <girls name> out?" on a sticky note, helped me realize that I shouldn't.
I can't stand people who can't take the fact you have your own life. I can't stand the bastards who get away with treating people like shit. I hate most political parties, news sources, etc. I hate the fact I have a hatelist I have yet to scratch the surface of. Anyone know how to get some optimism?
[QUOTE=Aulims;27375824]I had a fun dream, albeit random and off the wall, it was fun and I was in a good mood whilst I slept.
The moment I woke up it felt like getting hit by a train going full speed. Instant depression? No thank you.
Facepunch does cheer me up a bit, and your words help Cap'n.[/QUOTE]
ive had those dreams, where you are in a state of extreme happiness, with the girl of your dreams and you just wake up and realize it was all a lie and will never happen. All you need to think is that it is your goal, and you will achieve true happiness. I know that may not have been your bream but just im just rambling here.
[QUOTE=technologic] suicide note [/QUOTE]
dont you fucking dare do it you selfish prick. The only thing you will be doing is taking away a loved one, yourself, from your family and future partner. By taking your life, you are taking away that beam of light that a girl in the future depends on, bc there will be that person that falls for you and you are only taking away their happiness.
ill be gone for a few hours so keep em coming, ill try to reply to as many as i can
I just took my fake tattoo of my chest
Do I win?
I love that several people have come through here and personally taken it upon themselves to help people out individually!
No sarcasm in that post, even though it sounds like it.
This weekend we have four days off after (high-school) finals, and I have no idea what I want to do. I'm definitely recruiting a few of my friends to go to someone's house and watch "Megashark Vs. Crocasaurus" (terrible looking movie that will be great to make fun of). Other than that, though, I really don't know what to do... I think I'll attempt to hang out with the-chick-I-have-a-crush-on and friends at some point. I'd prefer to just be friends with her because she seems like a bad person for me to be romantically involved with, but I still have that urge to interact with her like with any person I get crushes on... As a bonus, it seems like she thinks I'm a cool enough person to warrant talking to.
Fucked up my last relationship with a girl pretty hard core. It's been almost 3 months and still upset as hell because of it.
Alright so this is all kinds of odd. I'm on Omegle, meet this girl. This girl is fun to talk to and quite pretty. Unexpectedly, certain words are said, certain virtual hanky-panky takes place. I add her on Facebook, get her phone number. Right, not an odd evening at all. (And yes, it really is a girl and not an elaborate .gif, etc)
So, two days later, I text her, talk for several hours, good conversation takes place. As do the transferring of hanky-panky pictures. Future webcam hanky-panky is hinted at.
Now, we have Mr. Madmac rather happy he met this girl, both for the obvious reasons and because he genuinely enjoys her pseudo-presence. He is enamored, but defiantly not in love or yearning to woo this girl. So here's the problems:
>After those many many hours of good conversation, Madmac realizes he is the only one texting.
>He is texting quite a bit, and as the days go by her responses start losing.... enthusiasm?
>Not technically a problem, but a clear no romance/no relationship rule is in effect.
>Madmac has had a single girlfriend in his life and is sure he is making novice mistakes, or worse simply being an annoyance to a person who, within his knowledge, he rather likes as a person.
Madmac is worried, what can Madmac do?
Writing in third-person is easier.
Also, Madmac has real-life friends that will shit on his life if they find this post, if they do : "Sup bros!"
EDIT:
Madmac would put this is Love Advice, but it doesn't really involve love, and he doesn't feel it justifies a thread.
[QUOTE=Madmac10;27381569]Alright so this is all kinds of odd. I'm on Omegle, meet this girl. This girl is fun to talk to and quite pretty. Unexpectedly, certain words are said, certain virtual hanky-panky takes place. I add her on Facebook, get her phone number. Right, not an odd evening at all. (And yes, it really is a girl and not an elaborate .gif, etc)
So, two days later, I text her, talk for several hours, good conversation takes place. As do the transferring of hanky-panky pictures. Future webcam hanky-panky is hinted at.
Now, we have Mr. Madmac rather happy he met this girl, both for the obvious reasons and because he genuinely enjoys her pseudo-presence. He is enamored, but defiantly not in love or yearning to woo this girl. So here's the problems:
>After those many many hours of good conversation, Madmac realizes he is the only one texting.
>He is texting quite a bit, and as the days go by her responses start losing.... enthusiasm?
>Not technically a problem, but a clear no romance/no relationship rule is in effect.
>Madmac has had a single girlfriend in his life and is sure he is making novice mistakes, or worse simply being an annoyance to a person who, within his knowledge, he rather likes as a person.
Madmac is worried, what can Madmac do?
Writing in third-person is easier.
Also, Madmac has real-life friends that will shit on his life if they find this post, if they do : "Sup bros!"
EDIT:
Madmac would put this is Love Advice, but it doesn't really involve love, and he doesn't feel it justifies a thread.[/QUOTE]
Don't waste your time? It seems like you know that already. (Chances of you having a real relationship with a girl online are incredibly low.)
[QUOTE=CaptainQuirk;27381627]Don't waste your time? It seems like you know that already. (Chances of you having a real relationship with a girl online are incredibly low.)[/QUOTE]
True but not always the case.
[editline]12th January 2011[/editline]
I just like to be optimistic about everything.
[editline]12th January 2011[/editline]
But yeah, chances are quite low.
[QUOTE=CaptainQuirk;27381627]Don't waste your time? It seems like you know that already. (Chances of you having a real relationship with a girl online are incredibly low.)[/QUOTE]
It's not really a relationship, I was out for, cheesy as it fucking sounds, I liked the friend part a whole lot better.
But, yah, it's a really dumb thing to worry about, but it was good to lay it out for myself.
Actual off-chest getting(?):
I am said that I met a cool person that I enjoy talking to but it seems my over-eagerness has lead to very quick self-immolation of a nice thing. Her not talking to me of her own accord made me sadder than it had a right to, and I know it. :smith:
I met my best friend online. Dunno if that is weird or not, but I don't care.
I can't get past ravenholm because the black and poison headcrabs scare the shit out of me and i scarequit when i see one. Now it's just a habit to avoid black and poison headcrabs.
[QUOTE=mariodude146;27382071]I can't get past ravenholm because the black and poison headcrabs scare the shit out of me and i scarequit when i see one. Now it's just a habit to avoid black and poison headcrabs.[/QUOTE]
Too bad... I really loved that level.
I got scared a ton by those guys until I realized that they couldn't hurt me (the can't inflict a lethal hit).
I just realised how much of a dick I was to a girl I liked by acting like I didn't like her behind her back and she was genuinely into me
Basically the first girl that was into me that wasn't like "we should just be friends derp" after one day.
Also, I fucking hate girls that want to go out with you then the next day they're like "hurp durp let's just be friends"
I also feel like I'm a gigantic douche to my friends even though they deny it when I ask them.
I'm also doing shitty in the two hardest classes I have and my parents blame it on me though I explicity told them I wouldn't be ready for them because I was a freshman and they forced me to anyway
I'm having an algebra two midterm tomorrow, one of the classes I'm doing shitty in, and I have no idea how I'm going to pass it.
That made me feel better.
[QUOTE=mariodude146;27382071]I can't get past ravenholm because the black and poison headcrabs scare the shit out of me and i scarequit when i see one. Now it's just a habit to avoid black and poison headcrabs.[/QUOTE]
I had my iTunes running over the sound when I played that part. Took the scare factor away. The level was still fun though.
I never beat Half-Life 2.
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