So, there is this girl who I am friends with that puts me in an awkward situation. You see, she recently broke up with a boyfriend of hers after he started talking shit behind her back. A little while after this, she started becoming more intimate with me, putting her hands on my shoulders and the like during normal conversation. I am getting a lot of mixed signals, especially due to the fact I have no interest with going out with her for reasons I will not list here. I asked her about it and she denied it, but her actions say otherwise. I want to keep her as a friend, but not break her heart when she finds out I'm not interested. Help?
Are people unaware of the "Love Advice" section of FacePunch? They actually have pretty quality advice and are really friendly (for the most part).
I ask because a whole lot of the posts in this thread seem to fit into that subforum.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;27382380]Are people unaware of the "Love Advice" section of FacePunch? They actually have pretty quality advice and are really friendly (for the most part).
I ask because a whole lot of the posts in this thread seem to fit into that subforum.[/QUOTE]
when people are dealing with their own issues they have something to relate to.
I also tried to play gm_ghosthunt once, and the random stalker event gave me nightmares
Honestly, I didn't find gm_ghosthunt to be that scary. It seemed to be more of a jump-at-you scary, which I personally don't really find too scary.
-bloody 'ell-
[QUOTE=CaptainQuirk;27381276]Fucked up my last relationship with a girl pretty hard core. It's been almost 3 months and still upset as hell because of it.[/QUOTE]
Who's upset? You or her? Regardless, as often is my advice here, talk to her. Sort things out. Discover what's wrong and try to be civil and see it from one another's perspective. Don't let it fester
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;27382380]Are people unaware of the "Love Advice" section of FacePunch? They actually have pretty quality advice and are really friendly (for the most part).
I ask because a whole lot of the posts in this thread seem to fit into that subforum.[/QUOTE]
Maybe they're too intimidated to go there? I dunno.
I just realized that I have no interest in providing emotional support to a significant other at the moment. To put it more bluntly, if I were to obtain a boyfriend at this point in time (most likely wouldnt happen but still) I would not give him one ounce of attention. I feel like after three years of being a pseudo mom to a needy clinger, I deserve to be selfish. I may sound like a selfish bitch right now but honestly, I couldn't care less. I'm not sure if its justifiable or not but oh well. For now, my emotions and emotional support is dedicated to myself and my few close friends.
[QUOTE=Pascall;27382533]I just realized that I have no interest in providing emotional support to a significant other at the moment. To put it more bluntly, if I were to obtain a boyfriend at this point in time (most likely wouldnt happen but still) I would not give him one ounce of attention. I feel like after three years of being a pseudo mom to a needy clinger, I deserve to be selfish. I may sound like a selfish bitch right now but honestly, I couldn't care less. I'm not sure if its justifiable or not but oh well. For now, my emotions and emotional support is dedicated to myself and my few close friends.[/QUOTE]
There is nothing wrong with needing to focus on yourself after giving yourself out so much in a relationship.
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Time to move on.
[QUOTE=Tacosheller;27382265]I just realised how much of a dick I was to a girl I liked by acting like I didn't like her behind her back and she was genuinely into me
Basically the first girl that was into me that wasn't like "we should just be friends derp" after one day.
Also, I fucking hate girls that want to go out with you then the next day they're like "hurp durp let's just be friends"
I also feel like I'm a gigantic douche to my friends even though they deny it when I ask them.
I'm also doing shitty in the two hardest classes I have and my parents blame it on me though I explicity told them I wouldn't be ready for them because I was a freshman and they forced me to anyway
I'm having an algebra two midterm tomorrow, one of the classes I'm doing shitty in, and I have no idea how I'm going to pass it.
That made me feel better.[/QUOTE]
Talk to the girl and try to apologize for you actions and explain to her that you're not used to having a girl that's been into you like that and stuff. Be cordial. People, in general, can be really confusing, not just girls. Like you're probably being really confusing to this girl who is genuinely into you. People don't necessarily know how to handle their family. I don't know how you act with your friends necessarily just try to think before you speak about how what you do or say will affect people.
Classes can suck sometimes. Work as hard as you can. Your parents just want you to do well. It'll be ok.
Good luck on your midterm. study hard
[editline]12th January 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Pascall;27382533]I just realized that I have no interest in providing emotional support to a significant other at the moment. To put it more bluntly, if I were to obtain a boyfriend at this point in time (most likely wouldnt happen but still) I would not give him one ounce of attention. I feel like after three years of being a pseudo mom to a needy clinger, I deserve to be selfish. I may sound like a selfish bitch right now but honestly, I couldn't care less. I'm not sure if its justifiable or not but oh well. For now, my emotions and emotional support is dedicated to myself and my few close friends.[/QUOTE]
It's understandable after that kind of relationship. It's good to think of yourself but try not to think solely of yourself and i would recommend staying away from relationships until you really think you've found someone who will take care of you too.
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Time to move on.[/QUOTE]
sounds rough, good luck with that dude. You will find someone else
Cpn, can I send you a PM in the morning(it's 11:34PM here, have to get up at 5:30)? I have a bit more I'd like to talk to/ask you about, but I'd rather not keep polluting this thread with my incompetence.
[QUOTE=Cpn Crunch21;27382790]sounds rough, good luck with that dude. You will find someone else[/QUOTE]
Nah, it'll be fine. I'm gonna wait and keep it in the back of my mind, but for now it's best I move on.
[QUOTE=technologic;27375602]I have realised I am only happy when angry with someone. I also think that there is no point trying in school as we all die anyway, if my life is shit, just end it prematurely... right?
[editline]12th January 2011[/editline]
What a fucking amazing pageking.[/QUOTE]
Something is better than nothing. Try finding other things that make you happy. Things are going to be ok. Something is better than nothing. You have the rest of forever to be dead. You only have a little time to live. Try to enjoy it please.
[editline]12th January 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Makol;27382809]Nah, it'll be fine. I'm gonna wait and keep it in the back of my mind, but for now it's best I move on.[/QUOTE]
That's the right attitude to have. There's plenty of other things out there. You shouldn't dwell too much on just one thing
Sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy. Sometimes I feel perfectly sane. Sometimes my brain is so jumbled and mixed up I cant keep a clear thought in my head for more than a minute. Other times I feel so calm and relaxed I feel like I had been meditating for a whole day. Im happy one day, hate the next. I can enjoy games on some days, others, they just bore me. Im pretty sure its not bipolar disorder. Because I can go on feeling normal for half a year, but when something stressful comes up (school, loss of a family member etc..) my brains turns to mush. I don't know. I'm just rambling. Right now, nothing entertains me.
[QUOTE=Binsky;27382870]
That's the right attitude to have. There's plenty of other things out there. You shouldn't dwell too much on just one thing[/QUOTE]
Plus I was kind of expecting things to turn out like they did.
[QUOTE=D0C H.;27382937]Sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy. Sometimes I feel perfectly sane. Sometimes my brain is so jumbled and mixed up I cant keep a clear thought in my head for more than a minute. Other times I feel so calm and relaxed I feel like I had been meditating for a whole day. Im happy one day, hate the next. I can enjoy games on some days, others, they just bore me. Im pretty sure its not bipolar disorder. Because I can go on feeling normal for half a year, but when something stressful comes up (school, loss of a family member etc..) my brains turns to mush. I don't know. I'm just rambling. Right now, nothing entertains me.[/QUOTE]
I think everyone can relate to that to some degree. I don't know if you're bipolar or not so you may want to see a doctor about that. Try to ask yourself why you feel the way you do and exercise reason. My mind is pretty crazy and jumbled a lot too. Life can do that to you just take a breath and relax.
If nothing entertains you than try different things. There's so many different things out there. Shit you can't even imagine
[editline]12th January 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Makol;27382989]Plus I was kind of expecting things to turn out like they did.[/QUOTE]
Did they turn out well?
[QUOTE=Binsky;27383012]
Did they turn out well?[/QUOTE]
What did what?
[QUOTE=Makol;27383030]What did what?[/QUOTE]
Did whatever you expect happen, happen well?
I am a Christian, a conservative, and a female on the internet...shit sucks. I don't try to start arguments, I'm not an ass to people for no reason and yet, people are still assholes to me. Someone asks for my picture, I post one...I get labeled a cam whore. Someone trolls me, I tell them to fuck off and I ignore them..I get labeled a drama whore.
All in all, people generally dislike me because of my gender, religion, and political views. It doesn't matter if I'm nice or not, I just get branded and labeled.
[QUOTE=Binsky;27383077]Did whatever you expect happen, happen well?[/QUOTE]
To be honest, I have no idea yet. Just knew it would happen but not how or when.
[QUOTE=Binsky;27383012]I think everyone can relate to that to some degree. I don't know if you're bipolar or not so you may want to see a doctor about that. Try to ask yourself why you feel the way you do and exercise reason. My mind is pretty crazy and jumbled a lot too. Life can do that to you just take a breath and relax.
If nothing entertains you than try different things. There's so many different things out there. Shit you can't even imagine
[editline]12th January 2011[/editline]
Did they turn out well?[/QUOTE]
What is really odd is that I am an extremely reasonable person. usually. And I do not get bored easily, but I suppose the perfect combination a certain types of stress mess me up. When I get in this type of mindset I tend to ramble. And since I dont want to burden my friends with such nonsense....here I am.
[QUOTE=Aulims;27382808]Cpn, can I send you a PM in the morning(it's 11:34PM here, have to get up at 5:30)? I have a bit more I'd like to talk to/ask you about, but I'd rather not keep polluting this thread with my incompetence.[/QUOTE]
sure just pm me on facepunch
[QUOTE=Teracotta;27383083]I am a Christian, a conservative, and a female on the internet...shit sucks. I don't try to start arguments, I'm not an ass to people for no reason and yet, people are still assholes to me. Someone asks for my picture, I post one...I get labeled a cam whore. Someone trolls me, I tell them to fuck off and I ignore them..I get labeled a drama whore.
All in all, people generally dislike me because of my gender, religion, and political views. It doesn't matter if I'm nice or not, I just get branded and labeled.[/QUOTE]
Easy fix: Just don't give a fuck.
Or, you know, you could whine about it.
What I have to get off my chest is this: everyone in this thread saying suicide is selfish is a fucking moron.
Which is more selfish, wanting to get away from a life of suffering or expecting someone to suffer just so you don't have to feel bad for a few months/years?
I don't know if your beliefs stem from some kind of irrational hatred of suicidal people or just ignorance, but knock it off.
[QUOTE=Makol;27383085]To be honest, I have no idea yet. Just knew it would happen but not how or when.[/QUOTE]
Well I guess that's good? I'm not sure what happened or if it's bad or not so I have no idea what to say without just making random assumptions.
[QUOTE=Binsky;27383339]Well I guess that's good? I'm not sure what happened or if it's bad or not so I have no idea what to say without just making random assumptions.[/QUOTE]
I dunno if I want to explain or not lol.
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