Shit You'd Like To Confess On An Online Forum V2: We're all sinners!
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[QUOTE=MissingGlitch;49707185]So I decided to try out online dating. I don't expect anything to go anywhere but oh well. No harm in trying.[/QUOTE]
If you know how to use it well and you aren't a complete neckbeard 'straightwhiteguy', then OKCupid is pretty good. The moderation is handled in-company and by a few hundred long-term users with histories of successful reports. It allows multiple genders / sexualities, it has the best dating algorithms regarding questions and the such (which never use %ages to base viability on solely.)
1 in 5 relationships happen online now, too, so legit 20% of society is not a shunned upon thing.
I've run out of tinder matches to swipe on. Sometimes 2-3 new people to check every week. Somehow, I'm picky enough to have existed all of tinders' dude supply, which is terrible considering the city I'm in :v:
[QUOTE=paindoc;49707763]I've run out of tinder matches to swipe on. Sometimes 2-3 new people to check every week. Somehow, I'm picky enough to have existed all of tinders' dude supply, which is terrible considering the city I'm in :v:[/QUOTE]
Tell me about it. I went though all my choices in 10 mins and only swiped right 3-4 times.
[editline]9th February 2016[/editline]
[QUOTE=Catscratch;49707739]If you know how to use it well and you aren't a [B]complete neckbeard 'straightwhiteguy'[/B], then OKCupid is pretty good.[/QUOTE]
How can I avoid this? I mean, I am a straight white guy. But being seen as a neckbeard is a huge fear of mine. :v:
[QUOTE=MissingGlitch;49708116]Tell me about it. I went though all my choices in 10 mins and only swiped right 3-4 times.
[editline]9th February 2016[/editline]
How can I avoid this? I mean, I am a straight white guy. But being seen as a neckbeard is a huge fear of mine. :v:[/QUOTE]
There's a good chance if you actively fear being seen as something easily removable, you're likely not going to be one. Make sure that if you sport a beard, tend to it instead of just letting it all hang out under your chin. Try to keep your upper neck area as free of hair as possible.
I absolutely hate having facial hair. I shave 3 times a week because it grows so fast.
[QUOTE=MissingGlitch;49708361]I absolutely hate having facial hair. I shave 3 times a week because it grows so fast.[/QUOTE]
I tried shaving my legs a couple days ago. It was awful. I barely got through one leg.
I usually keep up on that but with it being cold and all I decided to let go for awhile, that was a bad mistake.
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In recent years, I've tried harder to express my true feelings to people and people seriously take it the wrong way. Since I think a lot about stuff to an extent I guess people find weird, it gets labeled as "overthinking". I have unorthodox views on how life should be viewed, i.e. the idea that there is truly nothing after death and that idea truly makes me happy, and that gets viewed as "depression". The people that do understand, though, are very rare and they're always in some weird position where they're now a soldier and have spent a good chunk of time rediscovering themselves. I get closer to people by not talking and remaining the guy in the back that can be utilized for work and therapy at your discretion.
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You reminded me of something that happened a long time ago. When I was in my early grades, 3rd or 4th probably, which would be 9 or 10 years old I remember sitting being bored in class. Religion was a subject we had and I never was into it, but I remember for some reason thinking about death and how we cease existing and I remember how I wanted to cry then, but I had to hold back my tears. It was surreal to think of.
I find it odd that there's such a widespread concept of afterlife, it just seems mostly logical to me that nothing happens after we die. For all the time I've spent thinking of it, it seems like the only sane conclusion.
I did learn to accept it though, it seemed depressing until I read someone saying that the end of your existence is just like before the start of it. You don't remember it and you weren't sad about it.
[editline]10th February 2016[/editline]
[QUOTE=slayer20;49708432]I tried shaving my legs a couple days ago. It was awful. I barely got through one leg.
I usually keep up on that but with it being cold and all I decided to let go for awhile, that was a bad mistake.[/QUOTE]
Tell me about it. I switched to epilating and without being able to do it regularly it's just pulling out long thick hairs each time and I never get all the way through. It helps to trim the hair beforehand, but it just really doesn't give good results if you can't do it regularly. I'd go back to shaving but it seems to just cause major ingrown hairs to me.
[QUOTE=slayer20;49708432]I tried shaving my legs a couple days ago. It was awful. I barely got through one leg.
I usually keep up on that but with it being cold and all I decided to let go for awhile, that was a bad mistake.[/QUOTE]
It's an uphill battle once you let it go. Because shaved down, maintenance can be done in like 5m. But once it grows back, fuuuuck it can take like an hour.
The first time I shaved my legs took me like four hours ;_;
[QUOTE=paindoc;49709146]It's an uphill battle once you let it go. Because shaved down, maintenance can be done in like 5m. But once it grows back, fuuuuck it can take like an hour.
The first time I shaved my legs took me like four hours ;_;[/QUOTE]
The first time shaved my legs it took about that long, and my legs were covered in blood after. Now I shave them like every night and it takes like a minute. (Gotta get that shit down because drought and stuff.)
[QUOTE=paindoc;49709146]It's an uphill battle once you let it go. Because shaved down, maintenance can be done in like 5m. But once it grows back, fuuuuck it can take like an hour.
The first time I shaved my legs took me like four hours ;_;[/QUOTE]
Yeah shaving after letting go can take a long time.
I find the process to be way easier by using an electric razor to get it as low as possible in all areas, and then hit it up with a normal razor for that silky smooth leg.
I never talk to my online friends and I feel kinda terrible about it
After reading this thread a bit, i realized i dont have any "kinks"
[QUOTE=splenda;49709337]The first time shaved my legs it took about that long, and my legs were covered in blood after. Now I shave them like every night and it takes like a minute. (Gotta get that shit down because drought and stuff.)[/QUOTE]
pfff drought. what is drought? after this winter the mountains are feeding us glorious amounts of water again.
Also srs though shaved legs are great. When I first fully shaved my everything I used fresh sheets and just wanted to roll around in them forever
[editline]10th February 2016[/editline]
[QUOTE=da space core;49710139]After reading this thread a bit, i realized i dont have any "kinks"[/QUOTE]
people on the internet make me feel somewhat boring, even with the depth of my furfaggotry
i listened to Friday - Rebecca Black today, GOD FORGIVE ME!
[QUOTE=paindoc;49710258]pfff drought. what is drought? after this winter the mountains are feeding us glorious amounts of water again.
Also srs though shaved legs are great. When I first fully shaved my everything I used fresh sheets and just wanted to roll around in them forever
[editline]10th February 2016[/editline]
people on the internet make me feel somewhat boring, even with the depth of my furfaggotry[/QUOTE]
You might live in rainsville but down here all water supplies are small puddles of what they used to be.
[QUOTE=splenda;49710300]You might live in rainsville but down here all water supplies are small puddles of what they used to be.[/QUOTE]
It wasn't rainsville last year, as much as I may joke. The mountains were dry as fuck, tons of the reservoirs were down to dry levels, and quite a few of the glaciers retreated (the cascades contain the majority of the glaciers in the lower 48). And the state burnt to the ground :v
but hey we're good now. I thought some of the rain recently had helped? Or was that so short that it couldn't even soak into the aquifers or do any good?
i think i might have another shot at getting an fwb but i think ill fuck it up again due to my own apprehensions
[QUOTE=Clovis;49710186]what about turn ons? im sure there are turn ons for everyone, even if they dont have kinks[/QUOTE]
I think turn on is pretty much the definition of a kink
[QUOTE=paindoc;49710343]It wasn't rainsville last year, as much as I may joke. The mountains were dry as fuck, tons of the reservoirs were down to dry levels, and quite a few of the glaciers retreated (the cascades contain the majority of the glaciers in the lower 48). And the state burnt to the ground :v
but hey we're good now. I thought some of the rain recently had helped? Or was that so short that it couldn't even soak into the aquifers or do any good?[/QUOTE]
We need so much more rain than the amount we got.
[QUOTE=Clovis;49710402]but kinks are directly sexual, involving sexual practises, etc. a turn on is just a thing of appearance, like a woman with red hair being a turn on. thats not a kink. if its severe enough it can be a fetish, but its not a kink. kinks imply kinkiness[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the explanation, in my native language there is no seperate word for both
[editline]10th February 2016[/editline]
Kinks are basicly just called a fetish here
[QUOTE=splenda;49710415]We need so much more rain than the amount we got.[/QUOTE]
ill send some
how much you need
Everyone has a kink. You just haven't discovered it yet. :qsex101:
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[editline]9th February 2016[/editline]
How can I avoid this? I mean, I am a straight white guy. But being seen as a neckbeard is a huge fear of mine. :v:[/QUOTE]
okay so the whole 'straight white guy' thing isn't always a generalised view it's more a specific group (that sadly happens to be large in quantity)
Don't try to be macho or alpha, girls on OKCupid, statistically, hate that shit
Don't leave shit filled out and don't say things that are creepy.
Don't talk about you sex life unless it's something that should actually be known (e.g. Hypersexuality, if you have an aversion towards sexual activity, etc)
Honestly just answer a fuckton of questions (I mean really, answer AT LEAST 100, if you can then like 200+ not just fucking 17 or some shit)
Fill in every box you can and have at least a full paragraph or notes and stuff
Just be open and honest. The more info the better, provided it's not bad-weird shit
Also bring up shit you like that are conversation starters or topics. Hobbies, recent movies you like/didn't like, major events in your life, future plans, stuff like that.
that's my best advice.
[QUOTE=Clovis;49710512]i've fit all this criteria but theres such a small selection here.
plus the women on okcupid dont have any fucking internet etiquette at all. most of their fucking profile say "im a strong feminist" and usually followed by a "deal with it". its just like who the fuck do you think you are. instantly crossing out of the tab if i see that while looking over profiles
the thing that gets me is that i have one girl from online i talk to, and i really see something special in her, but she doesnt see it back, which is normally fine, but i know shes talking to others, and this may sound rude in some way but i find it hard to believe anyone else couuld possibly love her for who she is more than I could. i just dont see it happening. I think that whoever else is talking to her just are excited that shes a girl that plays video games, but she means a lot more to me. i told her that once after talking for a couple weeks and she didnt know how to respond. it just drives me insane knowing she could end up with some guy that just doesnt see anything in her apart from being some quirky nerd, when i think she's just amazing[/QUOTE]
I don't even know what a "huge feminist" means, but a dude I matched with on Tinder specified that he is that and if I'm not cool with that I better move on. He's pretty attractive and I see him around all the time, but I haven't really tried to ask about it as I'm a bit worried :v
I don't get it, at that point its like you're trying to brag about extremism. I'd say that I support feminism to an extent, and that mostly has to do with my little sister trying to be a doctor and get into that field. But what does "huge" feminist mean?!?!
Most of the girls I am being matched with are heavy feminists, give no information or le so randomz. I have 500 questions answered. Finding no girls that really fit my interests.
It did match me with one girl with a 91%. But I don't know if she likes video games and she is a Vegetarian. So I don't know how well a meat lover like my self and a Vegetarian would get along. I tried messaging her. No response yet.
Well, then I don't understand the need to specify I guess. I dunno, its hilariously easy to make me anxious and then I effectively just end up [URL="http://i.imgur.com/cr0HxVn.jpg"]running away and hiding[/URL]. I don't do well when someone confronts me about anything, tbh. Just shut down.
ok, this confession is kinda cringe-worthy but whatever.
so last night I watched a movie before going to bed and there's this very good looking actor and stuff, but I'm not the kind of guy who starts to fantasize on gorgeous guys, especially in movies.
Then I went to bed, I don't really remember in details the dream that I had, but the guy was in there and it was NOT a sexual thingy dream. But I guess I was pretty happy in that dream. Then I woke up, and I was like in shock, because I don't really have this kind of dreams. It felt actually so real to me like I knew him. And then I started sobbing for half an hour with this strange feeling, like someone died or you won't see that person again. Now my mind is completely knocked-out and I still can't figure it out.
My brain can simply fuck me up, just like that.
[QUOTE=MissingGlitch;49710536]Most of the girls I am being matched with are heavy feminists, give no information or le so randomz. I have 500 questions answered. Finding no girls that really fit my interests.
It did match me with one girl with a 91%. But I don't know if she likes video games and she is a Vegetarian. So I don't know how well a meat lover like my self and a Vegetarian would get along. I tried messaging her. No response yet.[/QUOTE]
it's easy to date vegetarians.
literally just don't go specifically to a steakhouse / primarily bbq& grill place.
don't do stupid shit like 'mmm yummy meat' and just ask if they have vegatarian options. don't overthink it.
just talk to people that's the biggest thing.
Just make a real first message not just 'hi' and nothing creepy. That's statistically what gets the most replies and just is always better
[QUOTE=Clovis;49710512]plus the women on okcupid dont have any fucking internet etiquette at all. most of their fucking profile say "im a strong feminist" and usually followed by a "deal with it". its just like who the fuck do you think you are. instantly crossing out of the tab if i see that while looking over profiles[/QUOTE]
When people say, "I'm just a bitch, deal with it" or something along the lines, I always want to say something like, "I'm just going to push you in the face, deal with it", or go full-force stupid with it to mess with them and say, "I'm just a Nazi seal-clubber, deal with it". After all, people who say they are just something will never recognize that negative aspect of them as a problem, and [I]come ooooon man, they're juuuuust being honest[/I], so they're often not worth your time. You don't have to "deal with it". People who say stuff like that have a false sense of importance that is far larger than it actually is.
[QUOTE=arthurisfine;49710601]ok, this confession is kinda cringe-worthy but whatever.
so last night I watched a movie before going to bed and there's this very good looking actor and stuff, but I'm not the kind of guy who starts to fantasize on gorgeous guys, especially in movies.
Then I went to bed, I don't really remember in details the dream that I had, but the guy was in there and it was NOT a sexual thingy dream. But I guess I was pretty happy in that dream. Then I woke up, and I was like in shock, because I don't really have this kind of dreams. It felt actually so real to me like I knew him. And then I started sobbing for half an hour with this strange feeling, like someone died or you won't see that person again. Now my mind is completely knocked-out and I still can't figure it out.
My brain can simply fuck me up, just like that.[/QUOTE]
I had a dream that my dumb fuck landlord left an electrical wire exposed in the wall and I watched my dad grab it and electrocute himself. I spent the rest of the dream celebrating his death. And then I woke up and sat there in shock wondering what the fuck is wrong with my subconscious
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