Shit You'd Like To Confess On An Online Forum V2: We're all sinners!
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[QUOTE=NightmareX91;49296833]I kinda just stopped telling myself I'm a lonely asshole who will never have friends, and with some patience, friends started coming to me.[/QUOTE]
I mean don't get me wrong I'm not saying you can't ask for help, but if you keep asking for sympathy and help and don't make anything of it your friends or people you talk to may feel they're letting you down. While we all need help from time to time, whether it be someone to talk to or professional help, the ultimate responsibility comes down to the individual making the choice to reach out.
That, and self defeatist thinking is ludicrously powerful, it massacred me and my academic performance last year (rip ADHD+this). Its hard to break out of, I do know that.
[QUOTE=KillerJaguar;49293776]I don't understand how everyone else manages to get girlfriends[/QUOTE]
To be honest, I still can't believe that back in my final year of high school, I caught the attention of my now-girlfriend...by always leaving my pencil case in the floor, next to my seat
(There was other stuff as well, but she remembers the pencil case the most. For some reason)
That was in 2012. We met up again [I]last year[/I], and I had completely forgotten about her. Meanwhile, she had a crush on me since [I]then[/I]
I was supposed to meet up with a girl I liked today, which she had to cancel because of work. The weird this was, I instead walked into my ex, who I accompanied to school, talked to normally and gave me a 'pleasant' feeling, rather than the usual awkwardness we have towards eachother.
I'm now pretty confused about my feelings for both of them.
The girl I like feels out of my league. She's [I]drop-dead[/I] gorgeous. She lost 22 kg in the last year, because she was insecure about her body. That's how we met. I thought she always had a very pretty face and didn't think of her as 'chubby'. The guy who she liked at the time called her that and it broke her. I supported her, and we kept contact, but while I was busy with my relation, we didn't talk an awful lot. We talk lots more now and we've become pretty close. She doesn't live in the same city and transferred schools this year, but just for me she'll come to Amsterdam and hang out. We usually get a starbux, walk around a bit, go into the coffee shop together and just talk about whatever. The easiest hint she has given me is that she's into "guys like me" < literally a quote. She also doesn't mind me joining her into the changing room. And she sends me 'progress' pics of her in underwear (only). Am I just really dense? Help me out please.
Also, reading this back, I'm wondering if she even sees me as a straight guy lol.
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I mean, she's like this girl who likes to party on saturday nights. I think she can get any guy she wants at any given time if she smiles enough, she's [I]that[/I] pretty. I really don't want to make myself believe she's into "[I]me of all people she could get[/I]", a guy who spends his weekends gaming or watching anime / playing the guitar doing nothing productive really.
[QUOTE=Anti Christ;49295558]confession: ive met most of my partners on steam lol[/QUOTE]
I've met all of mine [sp]on Second Life[/sp] and it was completely unintentional. The weird part is I've found fewer attractive people on OkCupid.
[QUOTE=paindoc;49296721]Alternatively, I don't think there's anything wrong with being introverted and enjoying the company of yourself. I tried Tinder for a while, but didn't have much luck and seemingly burned through all my possible matches with a bad profile. Right now though I'm realizing I haven't really felt any interest in anyone on more than a physical level, and that I rather enjoy being free, alone, and doing whatever the hell I want without being interrupted by friends.
And I don't think it's healthy to go looking for friends or a relationship if you aren't somewhat content alone- desperation sticks to people like no other scent and it leads to exploitation.
[editline]11th December 2015[/editline]
If you do the above or don't try to change and improve you situation though, don't bitch about how lonely you are pls[/QUOTE]
Certainly, each person is vastly different and only they can know what they want. Decide what you want in life, what you want can even change (I know it has for me) so that you can pursue it.
There was a guy I knew IRL**, he was 19 and very proud he was a virgin, always claimed he "Was saving it for someone he truly loved" and I believe he was genuine about that. After a year or two of dating this girl, they finally had sex; After that he stopped being so preachy about it, and shortly after they had sex, she broke up with him.
From that moment onward, he did a complete 180 on his values, going on about how "Why love anybody, just have sex".
It's been a number of years since all of that, and he's much more in the middle now, where most healthy adults stand on the issue.
What I'm saying here is that, what you want and what you expect from relationships and sex will change. Go with it in stride, not everyone is meant to have a different person in bed every night, and not everyone is meant to share the rest of their life with someone they love. And some people might not find love at all, or until they're much older.
**Stressing that this isn't me, I first had sex when I was in the 6th grade.
Overall I think Jasonafex has really good advice for people either in rough relationships, or trying to get into relationships.
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There is absolutely no shame in being single, I can't stand the social pressures on youth to pork as soon as possible, only to slap them on the wrist for doing so too early. During school, it becomes a competition, a sense of status and can lead to a lot of problems if you rush into something you aren't fully ready for.
[B]I know many people who seek relationships as a solution to depression, loneliness, confidence etc. While having someone close to you can certainly help, leaning too heavily on another person is only a short-term relief to what is really an internal problem. It is very important for your long-term health, success in making friends, close-friends or romantic interests to love yourself before anyone else. Put all the qualities you seek in the perfect relationship partner, and apply them to you. Consider being in a relationship with a clone, would you end up bickering or fighting? Would you ever get pampered? Could you be there for each other?[/B]
Relationships will happen naturally without the need of seeking it out, simply by being a fun/friendly person to be around. If you have a lot of emotional baggage, you need to come to terms with it before seeking a partner. You can become a ticking time-bomb that can make a mess of your relationship, making you even more depressed then when you started.[/quote]
And some of his more recent stuff
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• Become friends before you flirt
Long-term relationships will explore every flaw and feature of your being, as well as your partner. Sex will only account for a very small portion of your time spend with your partner. Be sure that you are compatible in regards to hobbies, ideals, interests and comradery to bolster compassion beyond a mattress. First sexual experiences can be far less awkward between friends, and can lesson the pain of break-ups.
• Be careful not to overwhelm your crush
It's easy to succumb to social pressures or the desire to prove yourself to others as a great partner, however being too compassionate can do more harm then good when getting to know someone. Pace emotional support with other activities, and be sure that you aren't over-compensating for love that they may not be giving in return.
• Romance can occur naturally
Having close friends allows more personal conversations to be made, such as sexual interests, desires and even kinks. This can lead to playful flirtation that can turn into a romance if both members are enjoying themselves. Try to find a common interest (Besides sex) with those that meet the criteria of your ideal gender and be sociable!
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confession.
What I do when I can is keep a journal. I try to document my life. At the end of every day, I review it and ask my self how can I do better as a person. Fix my flaws.
This is what I think god wants.
I don't think god exists and I've always thought of people who believed in god to be lesser intelligent human beings (who were also cowards and slackers, because they put all reason beside them and then tell people "its gods will", as free pass to their behavour). Not anymore, but I was quite bold / harsh towards these people just a few years back. Ever since my granddad died, I became tolerant to every single person on this earth, because we've all come from a family which we loved, regardless of our history, religion, skin color or whatever exterior / mental difference there is between 2 persons
[QUOTE=LoNer1;49297411]I don't think god exists and I've always thought of people who believed in god to be lesser intelligent human beings (who were also cowards and slackers, because they put all reason beside them and then tell people "its gods will", as free pass to their behavour). Not anymore, but I was quite bold / harsh towards these people just a few years back.[/QUOTE]
I still sort of think that but it's not anything I'd bring up outside of here, and I know full well me being "euphoric" is about as influential to the faith of billions as a stiff breeze to an easter island statue
[QUOTE=LoNer1;49297411]I don't think god exists and I've always thought of people who believed in god to be lesser intelligent human beings. Not anymore, but I was quite bold / harsh towards these people just a few years back.[/QUOTE]
Didn't believe in it either. Then some one showed me some exercises. The expereicnces changed my perspective on things. Did I see god? No and personally that isnt the point.
The point is about looking inward and removing all flaws. Thats the gist of it any ways. To me at least.
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[QUOTE=glitchvid;49297197]Certainly, each person is vastly different and only they can know what they want. Decide what you want in life, what you want can even change (I know it has for me) so that you can pursue it.
There was a guy I knew IRL**, he was 19 and very proud he was a virgin, always claimed he "Was saving it for someone he truly loved" and I believe he was genuine about that. After a year or two of dating this girl, they finally had sex; After that he stopped being so preachy about it, and shortly after they had sex, she broke up with him.
From that moment onward, he did a complete 180 on his values, going on about how "Why love anybody, just have sex".
It's been a number of years since all of that, and he's much more in the middle now, where most healthy adults stand on the issue.
What I'm saying here is that, what you want and what you expect from relationships and sex will change. Go with it in stride, not everyone is meant to have a different person in bed every night, and not everyone is meant to share the rest of their life with someone they love. And some people might not find love at all, or until they're much older.
**Stressing that this isn't me, I first had sex when I was in the 6th grade.
Overall I think Jasonafex has really good advice for people either in rough relationships, or trying to get into relationships.
And some of his more recent stuff[/QUOTE]
I am bemused by the wisdom of that considering the source, never would have guessed! I think that keeping in mind the indivuality of personal experiences is important too. We can never really truly understand what others experience, only try our best to do better. And generally, we do better when we know better.
Maybe I'll change someday, maybe I won't. I used to always have terribly soppy romantic visions and dreams of the future I could build with the women I fell for, but very little sexual desire. More about spending time with a person who had a personality I enjoyed. Now, idk what's going on and if it's tied to the fluidity of my sexuality, but I don't feel anything and it's just bizarre. I don't find anyone attractive, and I don't (and didn't) think of any dreams of the future with most of the dudes I crushed on. It's bizarre. I still check tinder and see people I think are okay, and I'm only continuing to try because I know how important personal compatability is to me. So even if I don't feel anything at first, I imagine I will if a few dates go well.
Tldr jasonafex knows what's up. Make yourself into a person you can love, as you can't love someone else if you hate yourself
I am a Christian, and a New World Order believer.
[sp]*grabs blast sheild*[/sp] [sp]Let the cardboard box thorwing commence![/sp]
[QUOTE=Paxton;49298504]I am a Christian, and a New World Order believer.
[sp]*grabs blast sheild*[/sp] [sp]Let the cardboard box thorwing commence![/sp][/QUOTE]
Rainbows for you!
I don't give a shit about politics or the news. I go out of my way to avoid it all together. However that basically throws me out of the loop of whats going on in the word or who is doing what. I also can't hold any form of conversion or hold a point when some of my friends decide to start a political debate about whatever mainly because I don't understand anything they are saying.
But you know what? I don't fucking care, and I stopped caring years ago. All this political stuff has gone over my head for years and taking classes on it only confused me further to the point where I felt that it was all just noise.
The most embarassing thing that has ever happened to me was getting my period on a friend's couch accidentally.
I can only talk to people if its me and one other person. If I am in a group of any kind I just go completely quiet.
I can't stand the feeling of silverware in my mouth and on my teeth. I exclusively use plastic and wooden utensils because of that.
I get off on making awful, inflammatory posts.
I once made very convincing crocodile tears. Why I did that I can't remember.
[QUOTE=FiveEyes;49298618]I don't give a shit about politics or the news. I go out of my way to avoid it all together. However that basically throws me out of the loop of whats going on in the word or who is doing what. I also can't hold any form of conversion or hold a point when some of my friends decide to start a political debate about whatever mainly because I don't understand anything they are saying.
But you know what? I don't fucking care, and I stopped caring years ago. All this political stuff has gone over my head for years and taking classes on it only confused me further to the point where I felt that it was all just noise.[/QUOTE]
I find people who are willfully and purposefully ignorant to be far more damaging and irritating than any other kind of person politically
It's the trump card of trying to be proud of not learning, on purpose. It makes no sense and is worse, in my mind, than someone who is a fundamentalist Christian and such shit
years ago during elementary school I emptied a whole jar of glue in a kid's hair, which was the straw that broke the camel's back. I did a lot of horrible shit before that but that took the fucking cake.
the headmaster made me write a 300-word book by hand, I got pissed off and ran away, the janitor or someone caught me and went after me, when I was asked why I do all this I lied and told them my grandmother is dying and my best friend is really not doing well (that much was true) and I said that I was so very upset and confused at the world and everything and I got away with it
I was such a dirty liar back then and I hated people for no real reason, now I hate nobody but myself. At least that's better than going out of your way to be fucking horrible to people, I suppose.
I like to think that I learned to cool down a lot and accepted people for who or what they are. The only person I can't accept however is myself.
[QUOTE=paindoc;49302823]
It's the trump card of trying to be proud of not learning, on purpose. It makes no sense and is worse, in my mind, than someone who is a fundamentalist Christian and such shit[/QUOTE]
I never said I was proud of not being able to understand it. Its just at this point I've tried and just can't grasp any of it. As long as I keep my mouth and don't try and act like I know what I'm saying shut I can't see it causing any problems.
I ran out of nutella so instead i put butter on my bread and sprinkled chocolate milk powder over it. Never again
[QUOTE=da space core;49303339]I ran out of nutella so instead i put butter on my bread and sprinkled chocolate milk powder over it. Never again[/QUOTE]
When I was 10 I had the bright idea of putting my medication in my cereal
That was fun
when i was little, i used to eat peanut butter and mayonnaise sandwiches a lot.
i eventually started just throwing whatever shit i could find onto them. i remember one time making a peanut butter, mayo, (pancake) syrup, honey, and brown sugar sandwich.
i enjoyed it the one time i did it (i think i was 9 or 10) but i will never do that again
[editline]12th December 2015[/editline]
oh i think i had a peanut butter and mayo sandwich a few months ago actually, so maybe im not as much of an adult as i like to tell myself
[QUOTE=da space core;49303339]I ran out of nutella so instead i put butter on my bread and sprinkled chocolate milk powder over it. Never again[/QUOTE]
This is good if you use actual peanut butter instead of just butter. Actually, it's even good to just take a spoon of peanut butter and dip it into some Nesquik chocolate milk powder and eat it.
I've never eaten peanut butter in my life.
I want to replace milk with coffee when eating cereal, I think it's the most brilliant thing I've come up with.
once i was super tired when making my breakfast so i poured coke into my cereal and milk into my glass
[QUOTE=EuSKalduna;49297426]I still sort of think that but it's not anything I'd bring up outside of here, and I know full well me being "euphoric" is about as influential to the faith of billions as a stiff breeze to an easter island statue[/QUOTE]
I'm an atheist because I'm too lazy to be religious. I would rather spend my Sunday afternoons playing video games.
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