[QUOTE=Appellation;43744227]The number of maniacally unhappy polyamorous people I've met even outweighs the number of monogamous people in the same situation. For fuck's sake, I don't care about the way your ~boyfriend looked at your friend lustingly or about how your ~girlfriend looks at her brother's friend.[/QUOTE]
That's an anecdotal experience. Not research backed.
What are the best and worst words you can say on your wedding day?
- I do
[QUOTE=HZ Yasmoni;43749585]What are the best and worst words you can say on your wedding day?
- I do[/QUOTE]
"Hang on, I haven't had my bachelor party yet!"
[QUOTE=Rubs10;43749417]That's an anecdotal experience. Not research backed.[/QUOTE]
As are people's negative experiences with monogamy. And surveys such for that sort of thing, so they'd have to observe relationships for any decent data.
[QUOTE=Appellation;43750366]As are people's negative experiences with monogamy. And surveys such for that sort of thing, so they'd have to observe relationships for any decent data.[/QUOTE]
Do you think I'm advocating for a side or something? I was just pointing out that a persons personal experiences with relationships or what they've heard from other people, isn't evidence for anything.
Yes, surveys do use peoples personal experiences, and sometimes people lie on them, that's why they're not hard evidence for anything. They are, however, evidence nonetheless, and a well done survey is far more valid than a single persons experiences.
[QUOTE=Ramirez77;43740095]I have to wonder if people today feel forced to get married.
I see so many unhappy and unfaithful relationships, it is as you say "then why even bother marrying to begin with?"[/QUOTE]
Maybe its because they are not mature in their relationship or don't know how to handle it past the infatuation part.
Look, from my schoolmates:
I had one girl in my group whose relationships basically lasted 3 or 4 months, then they gradually lasted longer and right now she is with a boy 2 years older. And she met him a year ago.
The same for a friend of mine, he didn't have luck with any girl he was with until he found a very calm, intelligent and nice girl. He has been with her for 6 months now.
On the other hand, another friend of mine couldn't manage what I say, "infatuation" and continued seeing and being with a girl that BLATANTLY cheated him. He even found her in the other guys house....and kept seeing her until now when we completed high school.
So some people know how to handle a relationship with their heads and not with their dicks. Usually when your boyfriend or girlfriend starts making trouble for bullshit or unimportant things and don't want to talk about it/make a compromise it means that it will end bad (Not Shakespeare stuff but you get the point) very soon.
My fathers had their troubles but managed to worked it out. They have been married for 20 years.
[QUOTE=Cutthecrap;43751291]Maybe its because they are not mature in their relationship or don't know how to handle it past the infatuation part.
Look, from my schoolmates:
I had one girl in my group whose relationships basically lasted 3 or 4 months, then they gradually lasted longer and right now she is with a boy 2 years older. And she met him a year ago.
The same for a friend of mine, he didn't have luck with any girl he was with until he found a very calm, intelligent and nice girl. He has been with her for 6 months now.
On the other hand, another friend of mine couldn't manage what I say, "infatuation" and continued seeing and being with a girl that BLATANTLY cheated him. He even found her in the other guys house....and kept seeing her until now when we completed high school.
So some people know how to handle a relationship with their heads and not with their dicks. Usually when your boyfriend or girlfriend starts making trouble for bullshit or unimportant things and don't want to talk about it/make a compromise it means that it will end bad (Not Shakespeare stuff but you get the point) very soon.
My fathers had their troubles but managed to worked it out. They have been married for 20 years.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I'll never understand people who take back cheaters. Or those who side with them. Just break up first, is it that hard? (And now to wait for the inevitable and pointless bringing up of abusive relationships as if they are the norm)
[QUOTE=Appellation;43764276]Yeah, I'll never understand people who take back cheaters. Or those who side with them. Just break up first, is it that hard? (And now to wait for the inevitable and pointless bringing up of abusive relationships as if they are the norm)[/QUOTE]
Why can't people just share?
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