Transgender teen leaves note on tumblr blaming Christian parents for suicide - Polidicks

Parents like these scare me so much. I wish one day I can be the polar opposite of that.

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;46825070]No, it doesn't. Whoever told you that lied to you, just a warning.[/QUOTE] [url]http://transgenderlawcenter.org/archives/4273[/url] [url]http://benefitrevolution.blogspot.com/2013/11/california-now-mandates-transgendered.html[/url]

[QUOTE=bIgFaTwOrM12;46825023]What would you define as hurting someone in this context?[/QUOTE] If you're referring to the context of this event, it would be the blind refusal of the parents to accept their daughter for who she is because of their beliefs.

[QUOTE=Foogooman;46825091][url]http://transgenderlawcenter.org/archives/4273[/url] [url]http://benefitrevolution.blogspot.com/2013/11/california-now-mandates-transgendered.html[/url][/QUOTE] All incorrect. Seriously, if all that were true, I wouldn't be paying what I do for meds. You can read all you want, but things like that are not enforced here. My insurance absolutely does not cover trans treatment.

Additionally, Shark Bones:[url]http://www.californiahealthline.org/articles/2014/2/6/medical-expansion-will-boost-transgender-health-services[/url] If your insurance isn't covering your HRT you can report that and have it corrected

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;46825107]All incorrect. Seriously, if all that were true, I wouldn't be paying what I do for meds. You can read all you want, but things like that are not enforced here. My insurance absolutely does not cover trans treatment.[/QUOTE] What insurance do you have? Blue Shield?

[QUOTE=PaperBurrito;46824975]Who wants to send her a nice message on Facebook?[/QUOTE] Please don't. Telling her that she's a horrible mother isn't going to make her see what she did wrong, it'll just make her even more stubborn and defensive because she'll feel vulnerable. A better use of your time and effort would be to find a way of supporting broader social change towards LGBT issues so that this sort of thing doesn't happen again.

[QUOTE=Foogooman;46825110]Additionally, Shark Bones:[url]http://www.californiahealthline.org/articles/2014/2/6/medical-expansion-will-boost-transgender-health-services[/url] If your insurance isn't covering your HRT you can report that and have it corrected[/QUOTE] I already did. Nothing was done about it.

Seriously, file that with the DMHC [url]https://www.dmhc.ca.gov/Portals/0/LawsAndRegulations/DirectorsLettersAndOpinions/dl12k.pdf[/url] [url]http://www.dmhc.ca.gov/[/url]

Nothing. Was. Done. [editline]30th December 2014[/editline] My form was ignored. I never even so much as got a fucking call.

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;46825047]I'm 10 months into HRT and things just keep getting harder and harder. If I lose my job and lose my HRT, I will kill myself. There's just no way of avoiding that.[/QUOTE] Don't. Everyone has ups and downs in their lives, including myself. At one point I was so broke I almost became homeless, and the idea depressed me so much I was contemplating suicide. I tried to hang on and here I am 4 years later. You just gotta keep going, sis.

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;46825135]Nothing. Was. Done. [editline]30th December 2014[/editline] My form was ignored. I never even so much as got a fucking call.[/QUOTE] Annoy someone until something is done. That's a lot of fucking money you're spending, not just on the drugs but for the useless insurance. Make it a part of your daily routine, so like at 12:30 after lunch your calendar says, "Annoy my insurance company".

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;46825135]Nothing. Was. Done. [editline]30th December 2014[/editline] My form was ignored. I never even so much as got a fucking call.[/QUOTE] Well then you should follow up on it and insist. Your healthcare provider might be breaking the law. [editline]31st December 2014[/editline] Like, I know someone has given you a legal run-around or lost your forms under a pile of paperwork, but seriously, that's the law, in black and white. Rub it in someone's face until they do something about it.

[QUOTE=Foogooman;46825149]Well then you should follow up on it and insist. Your healthcare provider might be breaking the law.[/QUOTE] Even if they are breaking the law, nobody cares. Lawmakers just let people get away with shit like that. People still get fired for being trans here in California. Nothing ever gets done about it. This state is absolutely NOTHING like everyone tries to say it is. Trans people get treated like trash here just like everywhere else. I want to get out of here. Maybe make it to Washington or Oregon.

Following up with the DMHC is gonna be a lot easier than moving to a new state. How much have you pestered them?

Yeah, insurance companies LOVE to do exactly what they are doing to you, Shark Bones. They want to discourage you and let them break the law, so they don't have to pay for things.

I just don't have the effort anymore. I've tried and tried but nothing ever seems to get better. Especially since I live in one of Cali's most fucked up and conservative cities. I'm just so exhausted. I cry almost every day, I'm a few days of overworking away from serious injury to my ankle, and my government doesn't care about me no matter how much I try to pester them. Like, I know how that poor teen girl feels. I just feel like I can't move forward anymore.

I dunno Shark Bones, I just know that if you stick it out then you will thank yourself later. We all get the chance to be dead later. Live while you can, and you won't regret it

[QUOTE=ilikecorn;46825216]Which city? Also don't feel alone. The government doesn't care about ANYONE, not just you. I'm STILL working on getting them to cover all of the injuries sustained during military service.[/QUOTE] I live in Fresno. My whole life is a haze of meth clouds and hate crimes.

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;46825206]I just don't have the effort anymore. I've tried and tried but nothing ever seems to get better. Especially since I live in one of Cali's most fucked up and conservative cities. I'm just so exhausted. I cry almost every day, I'm a few days of overworking away from serious injury to my ankle, and my government doesn't care about me no matter how much I try to pester them. Like, I know how that poor teen girl feels. I just feel like I can't move forward anymore.[/QUOTE] You can't let it bring you down. If you want something, you fight for it. You don't let anyone in your way and always try to find another way around. Once you achieve what you want, nobody can stop you.

[QUOTE=TheDrunkenOne;46825227]You can't let it bring you down. If you want something, you fight for it. You don't let anyone in your way and always try to find another way around. Once you achieve what you want, nobody can stop you.[/QUOTE] I've been fighting my whole life. I'm just so tired. Why do I have to fight so goddamn hard just to justify who I am?

[QUOTE=ilikecorn;46825240]In your case moving might actually be a valid idea. Do you hold any special titles or degrees? You might not be able to move to a state that covers HRT via insurance, but you might be able to move to a state that isn't so fucking expensive to live in. [editline]30th December 2014[/editline] Because anything worth having is worth fighting for. And because people are dicks.[/QUOTE] I have nothing but my car and my laptop.

[QUOTE=Shark Bones;46825232]I've been fighting my whole life. I'm just so tired. Why do I have to fight so goddamn hard just to justify who I am?[/QUOTE] Because the world doesn't understand us. But some people do, and even though I've felt so, so alone in the past, I've met people who love and respect me for who I am. It takes us a little more effort to found our place in the world but you have to maintain perspective and acknowledge your problems and the way you feel right now are temporary. You just have to believe that, and even if you're not happy now, agree to just subsist and live until things get better, because they really, really will.

[QUOTE=ilikecorn;46825257]What work experience do you hold? Are you willing to learn a trade? Washington is actually pretty short of trade workers. As is Oregon.[/QUOTE] The only work I have been able to get is manual hospital labor. Moving patients on beds and stuff. Fresno has one of the worst job markets ever.

I've tried to kill myself a few times specifically because of my parents (I'm also trans) and, yeah. I can sympathize. One of the few reasons I keep living is specifically because I know that my parents are going to everything possible to have me remembered as a male, and fuck that. I'm not going to have a man's name on my tombstone.

[QUOTE=Mister Sandman;46825277]I've tried to kill myself a few times specifically because of my parents (I'm also trans) and, yeah. I can sympathize. One of the few reasons I keep living is specifically because I know that my parents are going to everything possible to have me remembered as a male, and fuck that. I'm not going to have a man's name on my tombstone.[/QUOTE] Good for you, seriously, keep that fire burning and you'll be just fine

[QUOTE=ilikecorn;46825307]Are you a CNA? Or an LVN? If not then those are actually extremely good places to start. The key to moving forward is to start moving. Your situation will not improve by sitting around, and a permanent solution to a temporary problem isn't a solution at all. So let's move, what do you like to do? Do you want to work in the medical field, or are you only doing it because it's a paycheck?[/QUOTE] I'm only doing it for the paycheck. At this point I've just gotten to the point where I have no goal. I don't want to do anything. I just want to survive and live a semi-normal life. I just have no strength and no hope left.

[QUOTE=Foogooman;46825303]Good for you, seriously, keep that fire burning and you'll be just fine[/QUOTE] Honestly I stay alive purely because of that and what it would do to my girlfriend if I killed myself, and nothing else.

[QUOTE=Bobie;46823867]let me ask a question to the members of this forum: how can you possibly have a moral compass without religion? a lot of you here seem to be 'a theists'.[/QUOTE] i don't know because I'm not a fucking sheep and can think for myself? There's plenty of fucking religious murderers and thieves and shit, so obviously your moral compass isn't working.

Honestly I'm really sorry for shitting up the conversation with my personal needy emotional bullshit. I'll go away now, I'm sorry