One in 10 people in the UK do not have a close friend, and even more feel unloved, survey finds
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My girlfriend is my only real close friend.
I lost all the others to assorted drama as i was leaving my teens, and i cant try to rekindle old friendships because half of them are desperately trying to cling on to being teenage scene kids who spend life hanging around bus stations and McDonalds (despite being in their early 20s)- and the other half turned into such huge douches that they are just unpleasant to be around.
[QUOTE=Saxon;45670448]I can't imagine being so alone that you don't have a single close friend
I have a few and I still feel alone sometimes[/QUOTE]
It really sucks, man. All I have is my brothers, and I feel like a burden on them.
Most of the people where I live are either flat out arseholes, chavs or "intellectual" snobs who look down their noses at everyone else. Finding quality people to get along with is pretty difficult.
Maybe its because everyone's pretending to be people they're not nowadays.
I've got two close friends, my sister and a few online friends.
I couldn't ask for more to be honest.
[QUOTE=Amiga OS;45670185]To be honest, I like it this way.[/QUOTE]
of course you do, you were born and raised around people who think that way
Having close friends ain't so great.
I live with mine and I probably won't end the year without blood on my hands.
Recently moved to the UK and became this statistic. My work colleagues just find me weird and never talk to me :( it's pretty lonely
friends are for losers
At times, I don't feel loved at all, as well as feel there is no hope whenever I have a dark day. I always think too as to how the hell I get through one dark day after another. I don't know how I do it.
I have had depression since my early teens and thanks to my vulnerability, I've had many people take control of me, abuse me, manipulate me, and bully me. And I kept holding onto those people because I kept thinking "That's life.", and "Everyone is like this, I just have to suck it up." and "These are the best sorts of people I'm ever going to get in this life.". I've also been physically abused in one relationship, and have been played by, manipulated, controlled, and cheated on in another relationship, making me sink into my shell more-so than before. The last time I was that low, was almost a year ago.
But, thanks to the vow I've made to myself, to block out all the negative people in my life without a second thought, to surround myself with positive people and to keep believing that there is hope out there, I have my close friends who have stuck by me since childhood, and I have my wonderful fiancé as well. I can't be any more grateful, and have never been happier in my life. And life does go on; You just have to make the changes yourself in order to be happy. :smile:
To throw in a different view, I have two sets of good friends, at Uni and at home, while I never really talk much to them online or by texting, whenever we're face to face we all have a good time usually. Even though people don't always invite everyone out i'm still okay with it. The people I do talk to online are usually people from different countries though :v:
Actually a lot of my interactions over media are usually snapchat related.
I agree with this a bit though, you never really realise how bad things can be for the guy or girl working at your local supermarket or how lonely some people who walk through town are.
I can understand this people here aren't that open to strangers usually, but tbh I don't know what I'd do without my friends
[QUOTE=EvilPengy;45670397]I stopped hanging around with people from school once I joined college. Now I'm at Uni and I've come home for the summer (for work) I don't even wanna meet half of my old friends.
Most of them are high off their tits on MCat or pissing about wasting their life, stuck in the same situation I had last seen them in...
I do have close friends at Uni and from college but I'm quite far away from them till September.[/QUOTE]
That is kinda what happens when you go through education. Your mates from primary school go to different high schools, your mates from middle school get stuck working minimum wage or jobless, your mates from college might get a decent job if they're lucky and your mates at uni will be all over the country/ world.
It's annoying because I've made some great mates in each stage of education, and I've already had my uni mates thinned down as a few of them graduated this year whilst I go on to do a masters. I keep in regular contact with maybe two people from college, both of which got lucky and have decent jobs (best employees in their particular branches it seems too). My mates from high school that went to sixth form just kinda fell out of contact with me and the rest, I have no fucking idea.
It makes going home to my shit boring hometown even more boring somehow.
Friends and people in general are confusing, I feel lonely sometimes but every time I go out to try to make a friend I can't. It's sometimes anxiety, but mostly I am just uninterested in most people and don't really care that much *shrug*
[QUOTE=orcywoo6;45669704]That's because people here are assholes 9 times of 10[/QUOTE]
this is the kind of attitude that'll have you wound up in a situation where you actually don't have any friends
I'll be your friend for 1 hour if you donate your Boostar money to me.
[QUOTE=carcarcargo;45670551]Most of the people where I live are either flat out arseholes, chavs or "intellectual" snobs who look down their noses at everyone else. Finding quality people to get along with is pretty difficult.[/QUOTE]
There is something extremely satisfying about the combination of words: "flat out arseholes"
I used to have someone who I thought was a close friend who basically moved on with their life and forgot about me once they went to uni. I just barely managed to talk to them on Steam during summer since they don't have anything else to do but I feel like I must be a real burden on them.
I want friends when I am alone, but when they come over all I can think about is when they're going to leave so I can be alone.
Seeing as so many have posted about being alone.
Its just the internet, but hit up my comments or Private Messages, I don't mind making a few new friends, everyone deserves a friend in their life.
[QUOTE=carcarcargo;45670551]Most of the people where I live are either flat out arseholes, chavs or "intellectual" snobs who look down their noses at everyone else. Finding quality people to get along with is pretty difficult.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=cyanidem;45670557]Maybe its because everyone's pretending to be people they're not nowadays.[/QUOTE]
These ring pretty true for me. I have a few close friends and a gf which are pretty much all from my school days 5 or so years ago, but I find that maybe 80% of people I meet in general in the UK basically talk mountains of shit in an effort to make themselves look good or to one-up someone else (Double points when they obviously have very little knowledge of the subject they are talking about), and it makes me struggle not to resent them within 5 minutes of meeting them.
I think there's an ultra bitchy culture as well, most friend groups I have seen bitch loads about anyone in the group that isnt around and if you were an onlooker you would think they were talking about someone they really dont like. In high school I hung around with and played football most nights with the big 'cool' group, and I ended up just stopping talking to any of them because all they did was bitch about anyone that wasnt there and it makes me wonder what they find to whine about with me.
Maybe this just applies to any country you go, though.
No matter what you all think of religion, it 100% no doubt creates a community of like minded people to make friends through. Many of my very good, close friends are through my local church. Without those friends I would probably only have 1 or maybe 2 friends that I would call close.
I wouldn't at all be surprised if the slow degradation of the church in Europe massively contributed to these types of statistics.
[QUOTE=cyanidem;45670557]Maybe its because everyone's pretending to be people they're not nowadays.[/QUOTE]
get off the computer, grandpa
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;45671810]Friends and people in general are confusing, I feel lonely sometimes but every time I go out to try to make a friend I can't. It's sometimes anxiety, but mostly I am just uninterested in most people and don't really care that much *shrug*[/QUOTE]
You tried going to places where you'd find likeminded people?
Like anime conventions or whatever.
[QUOTE=AtomicSans;45669682]Oddly enough, I bet this statistic is less in the US. US residents are overall friendlier, to be honest. The UK just feels colder and unfriendlier - both in weather and societal flavor.[/QUOTE]
Depends on the state. Not 100% sure which I prefer, open and friendly people or quiet and reserved, both have advantages at least.
I'm glad to see I'm not alone in being alone
[QUOTE=thelurker1234;45672618]You tried going to places where you'd find likeminded people?
Like anime conventions or whatever.[/QUOTE]
Yes, I've been to an art club and D&D club for a while, just can't seem to warm up to people.
[QUOTE=genkaz92;45672164]There is something extremely satisfying about the combination of words: "flat out arseholes"[/QUOTE]
time is a flat arsehole
[QUOTE=Cushie;45672333]These ring pretty true for me. I have a few close friends and a gf which are pretty much all from my school days 5 or so years ago, but I find that maybe 80% of people I meet in general in the UK basically talk mountains of shit in an effort to make themselves look good or to one-up someone else (Double points when they obviously have very little knowledge of the subject they are talking about), and it makes me struggle not to resent them within 5 minutes of meeting them.
I think there's an ultra bitchy culture as well, most friend groups I have seen bitch loads about anyone in the group that isnt around and if you were an onlooker you would think they were talking about someone they really dont like. In high school I hung around with and played football most nights with the big 'cool' group, and I ended up just stopping talking to any of them because all they did was bitch about anyone that wasnt there and it makes me wonder what they find to whine about with me.
Maybe this just applies to any country you go, though.[/QUOTE]
Yeah everyone I know bitches and whines about those who aren't there, I know they probably do it about me as well but at the end of the day if I cut out everyone who did I'd have no one left.
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