One in 10 people in the UK do not have a close friend, and even more feel unloved, survey finds - Polidicks

[QUOTE=Lium;45675943]How can you be lonely with the entire world at your fingertips?[/QUOTE] You can live in the busiest, most populated city with millions around you daily and still be lonely

no friends reporting in, not that strange considering the culture here though

[QUOTE=KillerJaguar;45678087]You can live in the busiest, most populated city with millions around you daily and still be lonely[/QUOTE] Cities are actually lonelier. The busier the city, the lonelier the people.

[QUOTE=lazyguy;45677786]You are also bitching and whining about people behind their backs.[/QUOTE] Not really I'm just pointing out what they do.

[QUOTE=buro;45670494]Some people like being alone.[/QUOTE] You know, I've heard this said quite a bit. While I agree with the basic gist, I think the core of the message hasn't reached the people - most of us will probably want to be [I]alone[/I] for one reason or another, at one time or another, but nobody wants to be [I]lonely[/I].

[QUOTE=Sgt Doom;45677483]Does best friend have a different meaning in the UK? Surely if you can't stand the prick, then they're not a particularly good friend?[/QUOTE] Nah man, my best friends are the most infuriating piece of shits on this planet. However, when it comes to it we're there for each other. Seriously me and my two best friends say shit like "Fuck off you Jew, I hope you get hit by a bus" on a regular basis and that's just light banter, you should hear us when we're actually trying to piss eachother off.

anyone in uk who doesnt have a close friend, i'll be your friend

[QUOTE=carcarcargo;45670551]Most of the people where I live are either flat out arseholes, chavs or "intellectual" snobs who look down their noses at everyone else. Finding quality people to get along with is pretty difficult.[/QUOTE] It's true. It's hard to befriend a person who talk's about dicks all the time, or those who complain, complain and complain whilst being the most spoiled student in class, or simply stuck to their own hobby that they ignore the other people whom wants to talk to them. I love being alone but there are some times where I become extremely depressed but with little friends means little problems.

I don't hang out with most of my friends anymore, my best friend is also getting married in a month and a half and I'm feeling lonelier than ever, like I'm losing him. It's kind of getting scary.

[QUOTE=Simski;45669740]Hey, what are online forums for.[/QUOTE] Online Forums isn't a healthy substitute, trust me I know

I've got 719 friends if you don't count the event variants which we aren't going to do isn't that right, Pikachu

I think it depends on where you are too. Everywhere here is probably colder than what many people are used to, but London has a much different social situation than the rest of the UK. I can imagine a lot of people there having superficial relationships because of the fast-paced/dynamic environment taking over most of the people's lives Also another observation I have noticed is that poorer areas often have a much better sense of community. My best friend lives on a council estate and everybody there has eachothers back, whereas my estate is the definition of white middleclass suburbia where you struggle to get anything more than small talk out of the neighbours

It's kind of hard to stay in touch with friends if you're not very outgoing. Ever since my study friends started working on their thesis, we barely see each other face to face any more. Luckily I talked them into weekly Wednesday gaming sessions before our projects took off, and that seems to work so far.

[QUOTE=lazyguy;45678136]Cities are actually lonelier. The busier the city, the lonelier the people.[/QUOTE] a bit of a generalization (or is there an actual statistic that says this?), imo small towns can also get pretty lonely since it's a lot harder to meet people that aren't already in your circle of friends

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;45688287]a bit of a generalization (or is there an actual statistic that says this?), imo small towns can also get pretty lonely since it's a lot harder to meet people that aren't already in your circle of friends[/QUOTE] Townies tend to be a bit friendlier and more chatty, though. At least that's the way it is here People in cities quite often just go about their business and try to get home as fast as possible. Walking shoulder to shoulder in streets, having to sit in traffic, or get crammed into mass transit makes people irate and short of patience for others :v:

I think it's because if someone was to talk to me on the streets here my age, I'd think that they were trying to take the piss and avoid them. That's my only experience with people approaching me here, it's made me a bit of an introvert. You just gotta lower your standards and find people with common interests, my friends may not be exactly what I want them too but that's nothing to worry about.

[QUOTE=Sgt Doom;45677483]Does best friend have a different meaning in the UK? Surely if you can't stand the prick, then they're not a particularly good friend?[/QUOTE] Most of my closest friends can piss me off as well, but it's really something you have to accept about people. You can safely hate the fucker one moment as long as you're forgiving him the next. Don't get hung up on stuff, it's a recipe for broken friendships.

I got pretty lucky at highschool. A close friend of my cousins went to the same highschool as me. We were in the same year and he was pretty popular in a good sense. I've known him for a while and he's a good guy, but I didn't know him very well. All I needed to do is hang out with him and be bearable and I had like 13 new friends by the end of that year. 5 years later and I'm still a lonely piece of shit though so heyo. [editline]14th August 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=GoDong-DK;45690138]Most of my closest friends can piss me off as well, but it's really something you have to accept about people. You can safely hate the fucker one moment as long as you're forgiving him the next. Don't get hung up on stuff, it's a recipe for broken friendships.[/QUOTE] I actually really feel more comfortable around friends I can insult for some reason. It just removes all tension because you know anything he does to piss you off is deliberate. When I cant do that with people I just feel on edge around them.

I can make friends quite easily but am just terrible at maintaining relationships, my main friends are people who actually bother to call me back on the phone on a regular basis. I also at one point had a best friend who helped me with this problem but they disappeared. Oh and doing a full time job REALLY sucks the social life out of you at times leaving you quite lonely.

All of my closest friends are online :v: [sp]that's sad I know[/sp]

Most of my friends are cunts, but I'm a bit of a cunt too, we are all just one big happy friendly bunch of cunts :)

[QUOTE=Mysterious;45691047]All of my closest friends are online :v: [sp]that's sad I know[/sp][/QUOTE] there are people on steam I trust far more than i could any person in real life

[QUOTE=hypno-toad;45688890]Townies tend to be a bit friendlier and more chatty, though. At least that's the way it is here People in cities quite often just go about their business and try to get home as fast as possible. Walking shoulder to shoulder in streets, having to sit in traffic, or get crammed into mass transit makes people irate and short of patience for others :v:[/QUOTE] yeah but then again, small towns also have, well, less people, which means you have a lesser chance of meeting people you don't already know in one way or another. not to mention, small towns tend to be more conservative so you're *most likely* not going to meet as many different or unique people i guess big cities can be worse for people who don't socialize much while living in a small town makes it easier for both introverts and extroverts, but cities still aren't as bad as a lot of people say

[QUOTE=ThatSprite;45691782]there are people on steam I trust far more than i could any person in real life[/QUOTE] Wow what kind of people you hang out with.?

[QUOTE=theevilldeadII;45691878]Wow what kind of people you hang out with.?[/QUOTE] people that bite you in the ass for trusting them eventually

Where I struggle is I'm really not that good at striking up a conversation with strangers. I need someone friendly to start talking to me before I can talk back. And that worked out fine in primary and secondary school because I was surrounded by people of all types and there was always one of them who would help me out of my shell - but now I'm stuck.

Had no friends in elementary school, but met 6 cool people at The start of middleschool. Friends ever since

[QUOTE=Hogie bear;45690152] I actually really feel more comfortable around friends I can insult for some reason. It just removes all tension because you know anything he does to piss you off is deliberate. When I cant do that with people I just feel on edge around them.[/QUOTE] I find this myself as well, but only when it's jokey insulting. I've had plenty of friends who will flat out intentionally insult me and that shit sucks, particularly when it's regular as well.

[QUOTE=carcarcargo;45694563]I find this myself as well, but only when it's jokey insulting. I've had plenty of friends who will flat out intentionally insult me and that shit sucks, particularly when it's regular as well.[/QUOTE] I really hate this putrid toxic "take your shitty jokes like a man" thing we've got going on. People (like me) who don't particularly get people or find it hard to understand them often take it the wrong way and it can lead to a great deal of stress. I slowly cut those kinds of people out of my life and i'm very happy to say it's possible to have good conversation with close friends that doesn't involve a facetious back and forth of tired insults under the guise of 'banter'.

Well what does society expect when there hasn't even been a video game that shows in detail how to make friends.