• Would you pass this university sex and consent quiz?
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No, it's "if she doesn't say yes, it's not consent." Have you never heard of someone being raped because "they said no, but I knew they actually wanted it?"
You can say yes in more ways than just saying the word yes. I've had sex with people without saying a single word. No is a clear revocation of consent so obviously that doesn't fly. No is literally the opposite of yes so I'm not sure how your example applies.
It wasn't an example, it was a question, so you could've just said that you've never heard of it, despite it being quite the popular topic in 2013.
No your example is just irrelevant to what I was saying. Someone saying no is a revocation of consent, so what does that have to do with what I was saying.
Because some people interpret a genuine "no" as a hidden "yes" and rape people because they thought they were "saying yes in their own way."
Yeah but there's no logical argument for saying "no" is actually "yes" where as there are genuinely other ways a person can say yes without literally saying the word yes and mean yes. The idea that both people have to sit there and say the words "Yes I would like to have sex now" is what I'm taking issue with, it comes off as if the people writing this shit are autistic and don't understand body language and other cues.
I think people rarely think that education about consent is gonna be some sort of panacea that solves all problems related to sexual violence. But, it definitely is important. And its not like education about consent is trivially true anyway. As exemplified by all the backlash this easy as hell quiz is getting in the media.
Also rape is usually not about sex or consent, it's a power thing, having very intimate power over another person. So teaching people about consent like this doesn't really make a difference, or may even exacerbate the issue because you're now giving new ways for a rapist to see an opportunity to exert power.
It's not just about rape, it's also about sexual assault. Instances of individuals getting touchy feely because they think the other person wants it when they actually don't isn't all that uncommon. Every course of this nature I've taken over the years deals with situations where one party is pressured into giving consent either due to constant pressuring by their partner (not always intended as rape/assault but still) or due to social expectations. Everything you've said needs to be taught is already being taught, though admittedly not yet everywhere.
I had to do one of these for college and I remember one of my roommates was a foreign exchange student so I had to help him complete it. I forget exactly what scores he got on his own but he scored insanely badly.
While smashing, how often exactly do I need to ask if I can keep smashing?
Ah man, I had to take one of these things when I was going into Uni. I remember one question was something like "a man and a women are both drunk at a party and they have sex, and afterwards the woman feels like she was taken advantage of, who is at fault?" I picked the answer "both of them because they were both drunk" and it was wrong, the correct answer was the man. I just remember thinking that was kind of bullshit, but otherwise everything was standard.
If you are taking the lead and are looking for dirty talk things to say you could consider asking, "Mmmmm does that feel good?" "Oh yeah do you like that?" etc etc. Doesn't have to be so robotic. can be hot too shrug emoji
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