• Tinder is giving women more control in India
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the thing is it's a negative feedback loop. if you don't get matches as it is, your score goes down and you get shown to less people because you're swiping and not getting matches, leading you to getting less matches.
Yeah, so 1. Put in effort to make your profile look as good as possible 2. Lower your standards to be equal to how attractive you are (or aren't) 3. You will now match with people as attractive as you are
It doesn't matter how much effort you put into the profile, if you're not an above average attractive guy Tinder simply will not work for you.
This would work great! And its helpful advice for women in Tinder. For men? It doesn't because as studies have shown, women are incredibly fucking harsh/inconsistent with their views of beauty and tend to trash just above everyone. So if you're not above average, you're thrown in the bin.
By profile, I meant "Use only the best photos of yourself taken from the best angles for the first two photos, since that's what everyone that's successful on it is doing".
wasnt there a paper released by one of the major dating apps that showed statistics that men tended to be pretty even when it come to matching themselves to their level of attractiveness, whilst 80% of women went for the top 20% of men? can someone link it? I dont like playing gender politics, and frankly a lot of things are here-say unless these apps release their algorithems, which they wont since they profit off of people buying "tinder plus" or whatever their equivalent is. I frankly would not be surprised if they are artificially limitng the reach some people get, in hopes of getting some people to pay some money
The split may be 80/20, but that still leaves 20%.
4, you will now be ignored because even getting a response is another big-ass hurdle.
That is 0% the fault of tinder and is exactly what you would experience if you were trying to meet people literally any other way. It's all about rolling dice, any social situation is. Your odds with any one encounter might not be that high, which is why you just have to make sure you're rolling those dice as much as possible; again, this goes for literally any social situation.
And you don't see how 80% of men only having a chance with only the bottom 20% of women might cause a problem with getting matches?
I did meet my girlfriend of 5 months (as of today actually <3) using it. Without Tinder, I can safely say that I wouldn't be nearly as happy as I am now with her. That being said, I do agree that Tinder has a ton of issues, not only with pretty unfair sorting and filtering algorithms, but also with the really kinda shitty social dynamics are involved with a lot of the people using it.
Will you just stop? This isn't a social situation. In a social situation there are far more factors going on and a far better chance than plain text that conveys no voice against pedicure images that don't even come close to showing what you actually look like. You scream survivorship bias and additionally you're bouncing around basically helping continue the same arguments that give incels credence by acting like this. You're acting like a cartoon character whose lost touch with reality. Modern Social Media is garbage, is algorithms aren't designed with how actual humans interact and make connections.
Of course algorithms aren't going to align perfectly with real social interactions, but once you actually get to the point of matching, then it literally is a social situation, given that if you meet someone face to face, the most common way to meet them later is via text. The algorithm might not be as ""fair"" as face to face interaction, but you're also possibly interacting with way more people, and if your profile shines you in as good of a light as possible (namely with the photos) then your chances aren't terrible. What are you on about with this paragraph?
That the other 80% of men are also going after.
It is not a social situation in any sense of the word. Any actual social abilities that you my have gotten are basically worth jackshit, especially for guys. Chat windows, hell even visual communication over webcams have been studied and shown to degrade and ruin your social abilities over time.
I will say that I have far more success with girls in person than on tinder. So I stopped using a Tinder. Idk I think I overthink when it’s through text, where as in person I can joke around super easily.
Yes, which is why exactly like with texting, you only share a few niceties before inviting them out for coffee or something. It's literally an analog to meeting someone cute for a few minutes, getting their number, and then setting up a date. There is no difference at all. It's obviously not the same as meeting someone that knows a friend, but it's also not trying to be. Tinder isn't supposed to replace regular interactions, just supplement them.
From reading this thread, it sounds like Tinder's whole business model just relies on ensuring a small percentage of men a lot of success with it, and keeping the rest eternally frustrated and feeling inadequate from hearing about them having good luck with it. That's both clever and disgusting as hell.
Yup. The Grindr method is years better.
Jokes on you I'm ugly af regardless of angle Legit though I'm not expecting models, I'd like to think I'm pretty reasonable with my standards. Regardless the 80/20 rule combined with circumstances such as location makes your chances on tinder slim to none.
There's a lot less women than men on dating apps in the first place, which is why the whole experience is so unbalanced. Since there's more men per woman than women per men, women get more matches and messages, so they become more selective so that they get fewer, but higher quality matches. Women being more selective means men, who didn't get many matches to begin with, get even less, so they widen their net and become less selective. This means more matches for women, who become more selective, and so on... It's a negative feedback loop which results in the situation we see on dating sites and apps, wherein an average woman get dozens of matches per day while the average man gets a few per week.
Why are they creating such a thing if women don't even swipe right?
if only, try a few per month.
How about a couple a year. Shit's rough fam especially when you don't really have any alternative option.
I would never make a tinder in a million years.
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