• The Sex Recession - AKA Millenials should be having more sex
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You have your definitions sideways. Your introversion and extroversion don't change based on on your company, even if your behaviour does. Here's a fool proof test devised by me: Do you generally find Social situations energy consuming, and alone time invigorating? You're an introvert Alone time energy consuming, social situations invigorating? You're an extrovert Neither or both? Ambivert Many tests mix up being unsocial with introversion and social with extroversion, but I don't think that's correct. Sure introverts may generally be less social since they prefer to be alone and are less likely to get experience from social situations, but it's not proof of anything.
There's still a heated debate between nature and nurture, but its looking like nature forms the foundation but nurture is the house built. So it really does depend on your upbringing and experiences.
Ah, to be clear I wasn't trying to state that I switch between the two. It was more that in some situations I'm in that particular moment notably more talkative than others. I'm definitely an introvert either way. I should've probably been clearer that I simply meant that if you took a snapshot of my actions in that given situation, that's the impression you'd be likely to take away.
Everything is individual to everyone of course. Part of the argument that I see people stating in round about terms is that our nature is determined by our genetics, and thus out of our control. I don't agree with this. I agree, the debate isn't over on whether it's "nature or nurture", much like you I agree it's a combination of the two. But I also believe "mind over matter" is an important addition in the context of self improvement, be it physical or emotional or social growth. Sometimes the application of willpower can result in a big change at a fundamental level, and I think, from my own personal experience, that is an avenue that is open to a whole lot more people than actively acknowledge it is.
I mean I've done all the medical tests there are for this, there's literally nothing else to do but throw my hands up because throwing fists into the air would get me nowhere. When your doc's advice is "work night shift" then unless I start doing speed I'm just gonna be drained. Exposure therapy worked great for my anxiety but that's gone and I'm left with fatigue. Trust me, I'm not anxious, I'm just exhausted. I'm totally friendly, charismatic and personable but it's like being around people saps my energy or some shit. I need to exert myself to socialize or even be cognizant of other people and I have a limited amount of energy before I start craving silence and solitude. I'm 26 now, I've gone through college, forced myself into parties, awkward social things, bars, etc. and I still don't enjoy them because they exhaust me. Forcing myself to be around large groups when I could just hang out in small groups or be alone is basically self-harm because there's no benefit worth the cost. Trying to pray the introversion away isn't happening. I've given things a fair shake and I'm learning I have limitations I have to work around. Some people get a bum deal in life; I'm lucky my issues are relatively tame, it's a lot less inconvenient than having lower body paralysis or myasthenia gravis. My therapist says I'm an extreme introvert, my sleep specialist says I'm a night owl 5 (there's apparently a scale), my GP guesses I might have fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue (aka we have no fucking clue why you're fatigued because we ruled everything else out so here's the term for that so you can feel special), I'm practicing sleep hygiene and exercising but this is who I am. My options are to A) deal with it or B) work around it, and right now my job gives too many good benefits to do B so I'm sticking with A. Sorry this kind of spun way off topic, but the gist is that I'm too fucking tired to try fucking. I'd love to randomly meet someone who wants me, but unless I actively pursue it and wade through rejection and ghosting to find someone willing to give me a shot, no attractive woman is going to spot me at a 7-11 and try to get my number and/or genitalia. It's so much fucking work dating with no guaranteed payoff, so why bother. I'd love to have sex, but I'd also love to go to Disneyland, but both aren't worth the effort.
I'm trying. Believe me I'm trying.
You came in here with some valid points and opinions but this is just acting like a creep. An attitude like that certainly isn't going to bring the women running.
This is a retarded post, but one time on the bus I overheard a conversation between two women where one was telling the other about how she goes out on a date with a different guy every night to get a free meal. Her friend thought it was a little fucked up but didn't really condemn it. Such shitty behaviour.
This form of exploitation would not work if it was customary for the female to eat three ghost peppers if the male paid for the entire meal.
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