Friendly Moded PVP OFF Adult server?

I realize this may be against forum rules, but I’m seriously at my wits end here trying to play the game without some pre-pubescent jackass teenager either running around and killing everybody or people logging in overnight and raiding everyones bases and destroying their camps. I would just like to find a server that you can at least get a hatchet and pick kit anytime you want and no griefing is tolerated.